Great Aunt makes not so great wedding decorations

posted 2 years ago in Family
  • poll: How do you deal with ugly decorations that a family member made
    Use the concept but somehow make it less ugly : (3 votes)
    9 %
    Be honest and risk hurting her feelings : (22 votes)
    69 %
    Use them just keep them hidden and hope for the best! : (7 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 2
    5032 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    you say “thank you!” and then put them away in a closet.

    Post # 3
    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I think you should be honest. You already told her you didn’t want the fake flowers and gave her something else to do instead. So it’s not like she was left out. She choose to do it anyway. So be honest and if she gets upset, so be it. It’s your wedding and vision, and you should not feel guilty for doing things your way.

    Post # 4
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    What about using them for a bridal shower or rehearsal dinner? Maybe sit down with her and use Mrs.Massontobee:‘s advice and include that you still appreciated the time she took to make them but you’d rather stick to your original vision, however, you’d LOVE to use them at X or Y event, and maybe even give them away as favors? 😉

    Post # 5
    3497 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Allisoninaz:  I would say that you appreciate them, but that they don’t go with the theme that you want for the wedding and that you already had other centerpieces in mind for the wedding. Then as ClassicCorvette: said, maybe use them at a shower or some other less important event where it won’t matter as much so she won’t be as hurt.

    Post # 6
    139 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    ClassicCorvette:  Great ideas!!! I think this might be your way out of this Allisoninaz. 

    Post # 7
    3643 posts
    Sugar bee

    Allisoninaz:  I think we might be related. My great-aunt once made covers for small trashcans out of styrofoam egg carton bottoms. I think any trash can side is better than styrofoam (12 bumps a section – ha ha!).

    My friend’s daughter had her reception at a banquet hall that provided centerpieces in their rate. Maybe you could tell her that yours does, too? (Okay, I know it’s a fib …)

    Post # 8
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Can you take them apart and just use a flower here and a butterfly there? Not necessecarily as entire centerpieces but maybe just a single “stem” in each or something? Would that still clash with your vision?

    Otherwise I think what the pp said about using them at the rehearsal or some other event might be your next best option.

    My mum also made some stuff I didn’t ask her for but we were lucky it wasn’t too bad. Just some big burlap banners with “love” on it and it matched our theme.

    Post # 9
    988 posts
    Busy bee


    Allisoninaz:  I love ClassicCorvette:‘s suggestion about using them as centerpieces for a DIFFERENT wedding event. I think it would soften the blow of telling her that you didn’t want to use them for the actual wedding.

    Post # 11
    689 posts
    Busy bee

    Allisoninaz:  Good idea using them for something else. It was sweet that she wanted to help you

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