Post # 1
My great aunt has taken it upon her self to make centerpieces for the wedding (like over 50 of them!) that are not my style (think fake flowers and paper butterflies) she is planning on giving them to me at Thanksgiving. I have created a fun project for her to make and she was told that I didn’t not want the fake flower arrangments but asked her to make the project i created. she made the craft anyway, how do I tell her I don’t want them and still have my great aunt not upset?!
Post # 2
you say “thank you!” and then put them away in a closet.
Post # 3
I think you should be honest. You already told her you didn’t want the fake flowers and gave her something else to do instead. So it’s not like she was left out. She choose to do it anyway. So be honest and if she gets upset, so be it. It’s your wedding and vision, and you should not feel guilty for doing things your way.
Post # 4
What about using them for a bridal shower or rehearsal dinner? Maybe sit down with her and use Mrs.Massontobee:‘s advice and include that you still appreciated the time she took to make them but you’d rather stick to your original vision, however, you’d LOVE to use them at X or Y event, and maybe even give them away as favors? 😉
Post # 5
Allisoninaz: I would say that you appreciate them, but that they don’t go with the theme that you want for the wedding and that you already had other centerpieces in mind for the wedding. Then as ClassicCorvette: said, maybe use them at a shower or some other less important event where it won’t matter as much so she won’t be as hurt.
Post # 6
ClassicCorvette: Great ideas!!! I think this might be your way out of this Allisoninaz.
Post # 7
Allisoninaz: I think we might be related. My great-aunt once made covers for small trashcans out of styrofoam egg carton bottoms. I think any trash can side is better than styrofoam (12 bumps a section – ha ha!).
My friend’s daughter had her reception at a banquet hall that provided centerpieces in their rate. Maybe you could tell her that yours does, too? (Okay, I know it’s a fib …)
Post # 8
Can you take them apart and just use a flower here and a butterfly there? Not necessecarily as entire centerpieces but maybe just a single “stem” in each or something? Would that still clash with your vision?
Otherwise I think what the pp said about using them at the rehearsal or some other event might be your next best option.
My mum also made some stuff I didn’t ask her for but we were lucky it wasn’t too bad. Just some big burlap banners with “love” on it and it matched our theme.
Post # 9
Allisoninaz: I love ClassicCorvette:‘s suggestion about using them as centerpieces for a DIFFERENT wedding event. I think it would soften the blow of telling her that you didn’t want to use them for the actual wedding.
Post # 10
I love re purposing them at a different event. The shower may be perfect!! I really appreciate everyone’s ideas!! Now to convince her to NOT make anymore crafts before May… lol
Post # 11
Allisoninaz: Good idea using them for something else. It was sweet that she wanted to help you