Great Grandmother wedding band dissapointment :( *vent*

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
Hostess
9907 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@hazyleyedbeauty:  look for someone who specializes in resotrations.  I’m sure there’s something that can be done for you.  Perhaps you can have the inside of the band ‘lined’ to give it some more stability?  Even if the ring needs to be reconstructed, the gold will be hers, use the diamonds you can, and maintain the essence of the ring.  It’s still her ring, it’ll just be made to be worn for another happy marriage, and hopefully more!

Post # 4
Member
1656 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hazyleyedbeauty:  I’m so sorry your experience with that jeweler was so disheartening. It sounds like you appreciate the sentimental value of the ring but he didn’t get it. Don’t be discouraged; try again with a different jeweler and find out what options you have. Good luck!

Post # 5
Member
2873 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

To give you hope; My wedding necklace will be the one that my grandmother wore on her wedding day.  The clapse was broke, so we took it into the jewler’s.  Ours was wonderful and really wanted to preserve the necklace.  He did tell me it would be fradgile, but it is wearable for my wedding day, and I’m very happy.

Dont’ give up.  Some will help you!

Post # 6
Member
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@hazyleyedbeauty:  I had a ring from my grandmother that needed to be fixed, resized etc. and the first three jewelers I took it to told me it wasn’t worth anything and I shouldn’t bother.  Clearly, it wasn’t about the cost but the sentimentality.  Eventually I did find a jeweler (a small privatley owned shop where he does all the work on site) who recognized that and fixed it up for me.  So please keep looking- you WILL find someone who can do something for you!

I’m dealing with a similar problem now with my wedding band (FI’s great grandmothers).  My FMIL took it to be cleaned and they refused becasue they were afraid all the diamonds would fall out since it is so old (it’s an eternity band).

Currently, I’m hoping we can find someone to clean and reinforce the ring so I can wear it.  If not, I have decided I will use it regardless for the ceremony and maybe buy a new ring as my daily wear, saving great grandma’s for special occasions.  So worse comes to worse, you can and should still use it on your wedding day!

Good luck and keep us posted, I would love to see how the ring turns out!

 

Post # 7
Member
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@hazyleyedbeauty:  Keep looking until you find a jeweler who understands your wants/needs!

My wedding band is my great-grandmother’s (made for her BY my great-grandfather, who was a jeweler), and it is in great, completely wearable condition!

So I’m sure someone out there can restore it for you!

Post # 8
Member
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hazyleyedbeauty:  I don’t really blame him, he didn’t want to ruin a sentimental ring.  Maybe you could have the ring deconstructed and use the metal and diamonds to make a new wedding band?  Not even sure if it’s possible, but it’s worth asking!  

If it can’t be restored in any way, you could always get married with it but have a different band to wear every day?

Post # 9
Member
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Try a jeweler that specializes in restoration, ask local antique shops for recommendations.  If you still cannot find help, it may be a good idea to melt it down and create a new piece that can actually be worn and enjoyed.  Whether it be a new band or a pendant for a necklace, I’m sure something can be done.

Post # 11
Member
474 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

I’m glad you stuck with it.  Please keep us posted on your progress.  It is a wonderful heirloom.

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