Post # 1
1st- I know this is the second thread but this is a password protected link beacuse of such rude things said on the original
2nd- If you don’t have anything nice to say about our video then just don’t say anything- I’m amazed at how many people didn’t take in Thumpers lesson as a child. But its my wedding not yours if you don’t like it just keep scrolling. Thank you.
3rd. Yes our video was done by a student so the ceremony has wrong images for the right audio or the wrong audio for the right image! and our processional was poorly filmed- That being siad our getting ready, after and esepcailly reception are all done great. For being a 3k bride my wedding was amazing and I’m thankful to everyone who provided it to me so I can be with my husband forever but still attend school!
4th. Here is the link https://vimeo.com/54109433
5th. Password: Then – make sure the T is captiol
6th. I really hope you enjoy our unique wedding! i’d love to answer any questions about some of the weird things we did do and explain them ~!!!
Post # 3
@alishaloo: Awesome video! Thanks for sharing!
Post # 4
You looked really nice, and I know you’re upset about the rude things people said but you have to realize that coreograhped dances in churches, are not everyones cup of tea and when something is that “different” you’re going to have a LOT of opinions on it. So if that’s your style (as in dancing in church), then you’re going to have to accept that most will object to it.
You did look pretty cute though.
Post # 5
@vmec: even if it isn’t your cup of tea you don’t have to be rude and hurtful about it just wrinkle your nose and move on!? Why is that so hard for people to do!?
Post # 6
I guess it’s human nature- people are most likely to speak up negatively than positvely. Think about store reviews- if there is a bad review, that person is FAR more likely to speard the word/ talk about ones experiences than if it was a positive review. I suppose it’s the same in your case. It sucks, but it is what it is…
And perhaps 1 reason you got little reviews/ compliments here one the bee (as I saw you mention in another post) could have been that people WERE “wrinkling their noses and moving on” instead of posting something negative.
Enjoy YOUR memories of YOUR day, but don’t rely on others to make you feel better about your wedding.
Post # 7
I thought it was adorable and unique!
However, when you post it on a public site then people will comment. I get that you only want to read positive feedback but the internet is hardly the place to accept that. If it bothers you so much, then maybe you shouldn’t keep posting it.
Post # 8
As I’ve read on these boards 100 times, no one will ever care as much about your wedding as you will. If you’re happy with the way your wedding went, then that’s the only thing that matters. Seeking validation from strangers on the internet isn’t going to give you what you’re looking for.
Everyone has different taste – what floats your boat may not float your neighbor’s.
Also, you may have gotten more responses if you had consolidated all of your recaps into one thread instead of posting many threads.
Post # 9
Why not just do one recap? The Bee is pretty stringent about keeping comments civil, but once you’re out on the internet, people are gonna comment. If you’re just looking for people to say nice things, start one thread, enjoy the compliments, have it closed.
Post # 10
I enjoyed your video and recaps very much, I’m glad you decided to repost the video.
Post # 11
I absolutely loved the video. your wedding was beautiful
Post # 12
@Jer72: Thats why I switched it to password protected! I’m not too worried about a bee saying a hurtful thing its only happend once and it wasn’t that bad I was just being dramatic about it.
Post # 13
@vmec: @cmbr: +2
If you can’t handle the rude and negative comments, stop posting your pictures and videos online for people to JUDGE. I’m sure the people who attended your wedding had a lovely time, and I’m sure all the off-beat things you did just showed off your personalities that THEY know you for. Asking a bunch of internet people who don’t know you, or anything about who you are, to ‘get’ your obviously very personally stylized wedding is kind of asking for trouble. And you may say you’re not asking people to judge, but your actions speak louder (how many threads has it been now?). I see above that you referenced Thumper, and you’re asking people to not say anything if they don’t have anything nice to say.
Well, don’t ask someone a question if you don’t want to hear their answer (and all of their answer, good or bad)!
I’m not trying to be rude, truly….I’m not. I’m just trying to get through to you that if you are SO sensitive and you have such thin skin, stop trying to look for validation on the internet. Look to your family, your friends, and the rest of those you celebrated with. You know, the people who know you and love you! For someone so insecure, it’s weird that you are opening yourself up to comments from total strangers.
Last thing – you were a STUNNING bride. Like, breathtaking. You remind me of Isla Fisher – both beautiful and cute as a button.
Post # 14
@MrsPuddingface: I had bees’ ask to see it and excited to see it and I have loved sharing with them. I should be able to put my stuff out there and luckly now I can password protect it to just share it with the bees and then I basically said I’m not asking for your opinions on it I’m sharing the joy of it with you. I think I have every right to post that before sharing it just like people have the right to ignore it and be rude about it. I’m still taking the chance but this way its limited to just the bee’s and who I choose to share it wiht now. If you get what I’m saying
and thank you. I will have to look up Isla Fisher.
Post # 15
One time in my life, I spent a lot of energy and time trying to get validation from my others and I figured out I was being a bad friend because of it. You truly have to love yourself first.
Post # 16
I know I already commented on your video in the other thread but I liked it and I just wanted to share that with you again! I like your unique personailty and you had a great wedding where you got to let that unique personality shine through. I think that’s the most amazing part! I know not everyone liked my wedding either but I don’t care what anyone else said, I worked with my budget and I loved it so that’s all that matters… don’t let anyone bring you down you did a good job!