Post # 1
My daughter is getting married in November…We designed the invitations ourselves and they came out beautiful!! Now for the Response Cards, ughhhh. Her future mother-in-Law told her to include on the card that this is a "GreenBack" Wedding. That way people woulld give money as gifts. I don’t have a problem with people giving them money as gifts (not at all), they already have their household set up. I just want to be sure not to offend anyone, and that we are doing this the correct way…HELP, PLEASE!!!
Post # 3
Are greenback weddings common in your area? Sometimes I am surprised by how regional certain wedding customs are…
Post # 4
Etiquette states that no mention of gifts or money should be included on an invitation. The best way to get the word out about registries, or in this case a "Greenback" wedding is to do it via word of mouth or on a wedding website!
Post # 5
I don’t know if I would say it would be a "Greenback" wedding. Could you possibly add something saying a money tree would be available? Or something along those lines? I know etiiquette states you shouldn’t mention anything about gifts on the invite, but if it’s common where you live and among your family and friends I don’t think it would hurt.
Post # 6
I’m sure dozens of people will post to tell you that you shouldn’t mention gifts of any kind in your invitations. You can spread by word-of-mouth or mention it on your website.
Personally, I wouldn’t use the term "greenback", I would say something more like "we have chosen not to register at any stores. If you would like to get us a gift, a contribution to our house downpayment fund would be greatly appreciated as we are just starting out."
Post # 7
I think it’s fine to let people know by word-of mouth IF they ask and IF you think they wouldn’t be offended by the idea of giving money instead of a "boxed gift." But anything that indicates that a gift (including money) is expected of the guests is downright rude. I would not put it on wedding invitations for sure, nor would I mention it to anyone who didn’t specifically ask.
Post # 8
I think it is very distasteful to call your wedding a ‘greenback’ wedding – it will cheapen the wedding iMO. In any case, i think it is in very poor taste to ask for gifts, imply that you are asking for gifts, or mention your expectation of gifts in a wedding invitation. I think it turns what should be an "invitation to join us to celebrate nuptials," into a card in the mail asking for a gift.
Just my opinion
Post # 9
I had never heard of a "greenback" wedding before. The inlaws-to-be are from Conecticut…Maybe that is the difference. Thank you for all your comments and input. You have been very helpful. I Think we will leave the "greenback" info to ourselves, and just spread the word if that particular information is asked for.
Post # 10
I would leave it off the invites, whatever you decide to call it, and just go with word-of-mouth. It would not go over well in the South. 🙂 You know how picky us Southerners are with our rules and whatnot. 😉 Good luck with that though. You’re a sweet mom to seek out opinions on this!
Post # 11
I would leave it off the invited if it was me. BUT if FMIL is very insistent it might be better off just to do it . I personally think word of mouth is better.
Post # 12
No mention of money or gifts, or even listing of the registries should be done on an invitation.
Post # 13
I would leave it off the invites, but that’s because I had no idea what a "greenback" wedding was until you explained it. I have never heard that term! Unless all of your guests are familiar/comfortable with that term, it might cause a lot of confusion. If you HAVE to put something, I would word it in a way that is much clearer and more formal than "greenback wedding."
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp
It’s completely acceptable to ask for money instead of materials for wedding gifts. I don’t know if calling it a "greenback" wedding is a good idea, though.