Post # 1
Bees, my SO’s family is driving me nuts.
Long story short: after three different plans fell through it now looks like we’ll be driving 150 miles each way to SO’s sister’s house for Thanksgiving. The problem is, WE are the ones that cook. We wanted them to come up to us but they won’t. I refuse to cook AND drive, but they are just flat out refusing to commit to a potluck style meal. I mean, they say that’s what they want to do, but no one is willing to tell us what they will make!
So… I’ve given up and SO & I decided to just buy a meal from Fresh & Easy because it looks good & isn’t that expensive. It says it serves 6-8 people, which I thought was fine since I thought Thanksgiving would be us, his mom, one sister & one 21 year old nephew (who eats like a horse). Well, now his younger sister is saying she “always said” she & her kids (two teens & one younger boy) are coming too. So that’s basically 8 adults and a kid.
So my question is… Have you ever purchased one of these fully cooked holiday meals and did it really serve the number of people it claims? I do plan on cooking some extra side dishes to add to the pot and I’m hoping his sisters actually bring something…. but I’m just nervous that the main course won’t be enough or something.
Post # 3
I do not have an answer to your question but I just had to say that your in-laws suck. Why not stay at home and cook a small Thanksgiving meal for you and the hubby? I’d hate to spend T-day driving 300 miles and still be expected to cook OR foot the bill for the meal.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@NovaRising: Agreed. +1,000,000
Post # 5
I guarantee that meal will not serve 9 people. Does it say how many lbs the turkey is?
Post # 6
Sorry 🙁 Personally, I wouldn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with them.
I’ve never gotten a grocery store meal but my family has purchased Thanksgiving meals from Boston Market many times and it’s always good. Yes, it does serve the # of ppl it claims but we always add some extra sides for variety and so we can have leftovers!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
My first reaction is: good grief, who cares if it serves enough, they should just be thankful you’re driving so far to see them AND taking care of the food.
I think it could serve 9 people, especially if you make extra dishes to go with it, but it might be cutting it a little close.
Post # 8
@NovaRising: Yeah. I told my SO “I love you each individually but as a group you really get on my nerves!”. LOL His sisters are normally really awesome… it’s just that they can not coordinate as a group to save their lives! I’m only footing the bill because I REFUSE to ask AGAIN what they plan to bring and I refuse to not know if we actually have a meal until I get there.
@jny1179: Well we have to get a ham because they don’t eat turkey (don’t get me started!) and it says the average weight is 7 pounds. That’s not enough, right? We should aim for like a pound a person I would guess. GRRRR. I don’t even know what to do at this point.
Post # 9
@snd485: Yeah, when we thought it might be just me, SO & his mom I was SO jazzed to have a ton of leftovers! HA! In my family, my older cousins have a death grip on hosting all the holidays, so I never get to host and therefore rarely end up with any leftovers. I was so excited!! Now…. who knows if we’ll even have a decent amount for a meal? GAH!
Post # 10
We bought a full meal from Whole Foods last year – it was like $150 for 8 people and we more than enough leftovers. We did need more dinner rolls though – but those are easy/cheap
Post # 11
@MexiPino: Is it boneless or with the bone? Usually the estimate for a boneless ham is about 1/4lb-1/3lb per person (although obviously some people can eat much more than that amount) but you need a larger ham if it’s bone-in. If you’re getting 3 servings per lb, you might be alright. I never personally weigh out the exact serving size I’m getting on a plate so I’m never sure exactly how accurate those sorts of estimates are, and some people estimate up to 1lb/person. I’d make sure to have lots of sides, maybe some filling appetizers as well. And dessert.
Post # 12
@kittyface: Thanks. It says “spiral cut ham” so I assume that’s bone-in but it doesn’t state. I think I’m going to tell his more responsible sister to buy a small turkey or something. The meal comes with 4 sides, so I’m actually just going to get double of two instead of 4 small (stuffing & risotto). I’ll make yams & roasted veggies and have his other sister bring dessert. His nephew claims he wants to “try cooking”, so I’ll ask him to do mashed potatoes since those are pretty hard to screw up. 😛
Thanks. This has helped ease my mind a bit. I swear, next year when we’re married I’m just going to go drill sergent on all of them and assign tasks on Oct. 1 so they have plenty of time to get their act together.
Post # 13
@MexiPino: Even with bone-in, with the estimated serving sizes, you might just be okay, but pushing someone else to get another main is probably smart. I don’t envy you at all – organizing an entire meal for a group with no help isn’t much fun, even if you’re ordering part of it.
Post # 14
@kittyface: Yeah. My cousin on my dad’s side is the “organizer” for our family. She sends out these ridiculous emails months in advance telling everyone what they have to bring. It’s kind of a family joke now. I’ve always said she was insane but dealing with SO’s family I TOTALLY GET HER NOW! I swear, if his mom wasn’t ill (Parkinsons) I would just say “Eff them. We’re having dinner at home!”.
Post # 15
Honestly I would just tell them ” We are bringing ______ whatever dish you want____, and that’s it.” Let them figure it out. I would have my own personal thanksgiving the day before or after with husband.
Post # 16
@MexiPino: instead of asking them what they will make. assign something to each of the relatives to make.