Post # 1
First, what’s the difference between a suit and a tux? I think I’m leaning toward a suit because it looks to be a little more casual but I don’t know the exact difference. Also, can suits be rented? Or is that only for tux’s?
Second, how early should the guys pick out/ reserve their clothes? I’m a little over 9 months out from my wedding and though I realize I have time, it’s takes my FH a while to get things done after I ask him to. And our best man is in Afghanistan right now and won’t be back till the end of the year.
Third, we are getting married around noon outside in May in SoCal (direct sunlight, no cover). And though it won’t be that hot, I want ‘the guys’ to be comfortable. I told FH they didn’t have to wear full suits/ tux’s but both FH and my dad want to. So, if they’re all wearing black or dark grey suits (it’ll be one or the other), I’m worried that they’ll be too hot. Did anyone else have any issues with this? What did you do? There ceremony should be relatively short, so I’m thinking I should just not worry about it and they can take their jackets off/ roll up their sleeves after the ceremony is over.
Post # 3
I would start with a trip, just the two of you to a men’s warehouse. They have lots of combinatiions and suits and tuxes, they might help you narrow down what you want. We had our groomsmen in full tuxes but we had black shirts and light vests, so without the jacket they still looked really put together.
This is the best man and MOH- still coordinated even without his jacket!
Post # 4
What’s the difference between a suit and a tux?
The tuxedo had a very specific definition and as the years have passed and the 70s happened, the lines have blurred, making the term “tuxedo” one that has very few rules now and the difference between a suit and what some people call a tuxedo can be almost impossible to discern. There was a time that you couldn’t call it a tuxedo unless the suit had certain components that met black-tie conventions. A “tuxedo” used to be the same as “black-tie” which is a set of rules such that any man can wear a tuxedo and feel confident that he’s doing the same thing that a rich or poor fella in black-tie was doing 70-80 years ago. Someone once said, nature created men unequally—the tuxedo was invented to even the score.
Because nobody follows the rules of black-tie anymore and “tuxedo” is used differently. A tuxedo in today’s vocabulary is simply a suit that bears some sort of undefined resemblence and has features similar to what is thought of as black-tie. Points of “tuxedoness” by today’s standards are silk lapels (grosgrain or satin), vest or cummerbun (these days, people skip these sometimes), the satin strip down the side of the pant’s legs, a formal shirt (french cuffs and studs—though people skip this sometimes), and either patent leather shoes or well shined regular black dress shoes (though people skip this sometimes). Nobody knows which of these elements graduates a suit to a tuxedo in today’s vocabulary. I’ll guess silk facings are the common denomenator since you can wear an untucked t-shirt and sneakers with a jacket with silk lapels and someone will say, “that’s a cool a tuxedo.”
So when you say, “what’s the difference?” that’s actually a fair commentary on how the lines between a business suit and tuxedo have been blurred as formalwear fashion has leaned in a more individually expressive direction. Anyway. You want more casual since it’s at noon in the heat and a black tux would be weird and hot probably, so on to suits.
Can suits be rented? Or is that only for tuxes?
Suits can be rented. But think about your boys’ needs/interests a bit. If I was in a wedding and had to rent a tan suit for $100, I’d be annoyed. I would have rather had the option to just buy one or wear my own if I have the color/style. Your fellas may be different.
Post # 5
I know men’s warehouse doesn’t rent suits.