(Closed) Groom at wedding shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

This has come up a lot lately. It seems that in most cases the groom has shown up at the end of the shower. Just to say hello, eat some cake, and then help pack up the gifts. I think this makes it less awkward for everyone involved.

Post # 4
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think I am going to have my Fiance show up at the very end. Just to pack up gifts. I think he would be board, horrified, and go nuts if I wanted him to attend.

Post # 5
10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my circle it’s pretty normal for the Groom to show up towards the end to thank everyone and do the hard labor (i.e. load up the car). If your Fiance does go to your shower, I highly suggest he brings you flowers. Darling Husband did and all of the women seriously almost died. My mother cried and there were “aww’s” all around. Major brownie points. 

Post # 6
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’ve never seen the groom at a shower before unless it was a couples shower. I think making him be at an all girl shower is pretty painful, if anything maybe the end of the shower like the OP said.

Post # 7
1190 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It is tradition for the groom to show up at the end, give the bride and mothers a bouquet of flowers and to thank everyone for coming. The bonus of helping to load up the car is there as welll!

Post # 8
5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

In our circle, it would seem odd if the groom was not in attendance. Usually I see the groom and the father of the bride and groom at the shower. Sometimes even the brothers of the bride and groom will attend. You get a lot of household items that is meant for both of you so I can see the groom being there to open what are usually joint gifts.

Post # 10
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Fiance will show up either at beginning or end- there are family friends I’d like him to meet before the wedding, but there is no way I’d make him sit through a shower- he would be bored out of his mind (expect for bridal bingo, maybe)

Post # 11
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We were both present for our entire shower, and he sat next to me to help open gifts. At one point he excused himself (I thought he was getting a drink) and came back in with a bouquet of flowers for me, and then we continued with the gifts.

No other men were present for the gifts, but my father and one of the hostesses’ husbands were there to help. They played music in another room.

At the end of the shower, my mother did the “panty line” poem with coordinating gifts, and for that they sent him out of the room (wanted him to be surprised when he saw the lingerie).

I loved having him there, and didn’t feel it was unusual. Most showers I’ve attended have had the groom present, for some if not all of the event.

Post # 12
1715 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The groom will be out with my uncles and my step father so they will all come in together near the end. There will be 50 women and were trying to take the pressure off of him.

Post # 13
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My groom came in at the end to say hello to everyone and to bring the gifts to the car. He seemed pretty uncomfortable just being around a room full of women for a few minutes. I can’t imagine him being there the whole time.

Post # 14
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Fiance will be with me the whole time.  It is a wedding shower and not a bridal shower and his name is on the invite too.  Why let the girls have all the fun?

He will be one of the only guys though.  Aside from an uncle, Future Father-In-Law, BIL and some young kids he will be the only guy.  Otherwise the party would be HUGE.  We are all adults and can handle ourselves in public so why should be issues?

Post # 16
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yes its weird when it is not a couple shower, he should not go.  This is time for you to be with your girls 🙂 If he is going to come I agree with PP it should be at the end

We had a couple shower which was so much fun! So we didnt have this problem

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