Post # 1
My FH doesn’t dance. I don’t mind it, really — he is just a very inhibited person and I wouldn’t want him to do anything that would make him uncomfortable. We do not plan on having a “first dance,” because we are both uncomfortable being the center of attention. I do, however, like to dance, and will dance with my friends.
I worry a little that it will look strange at our wedding if we don’t dance at all together — aren’t the bride and groom supposed to be the ones encouraging everyone else to be on the dance floor? Has anyone ever been to a wedding where either the bride or groom wasn’t into the dancing?
Post # 3
i went to a wedding once where the groom didn’t dance. the bride was out on the dance floor for like, 4 songs with her friends and thats it. nobody else really danced at the wedding either. i don’t know if it was because it wasn’t a “dancing” crowd, or if people felt awkward dancing (that was why WE didn’t dance).
what about taking a few dance lessons? you can easily learn a few simple steps and that might make him feel comfortable enough to dance with you at least once at your wedding.
Post # 4
My FI doesn’t dance either. He is panicked about our first dance. I won’t expect to see him out on the dance floor :-P. His groomsmen are the same way, lol. It might be a little odd, but I don’t want him to do anything he doesn’t want to. He hasn’t ever dance a second of his life. Except for the times I made him fake dance with me in the kitchen 😛
Post # 5
@theeekingeek: Nice to know my guy isn’t the only one! We have been together four years and have never danced. I grew up with parents who danced in the kitchen while making dinner, so the non-dancing thing was a bit odd to me at first. But it’s just the way he is, and I love him anyway. 🙂
@blondeeebuckeye: My family and friends are the dancing type, so I’m not too worried about people overall. FH’s family, too. We went to his uncle’s wedding a couple of years ago, and some of the cousins (including FH’s 32-year-old brother) secretly asked the DJ to play that Soulja Boy song, and they all did the dance…it was hilarious.
We have talked about dance lessons, and he’s not terribly enthusiastic, but we’ll see how it goes. Lessons will be required if we decide to do a first dance, because I do not want everyone staring at us for three minutes while we “sway.”
Post # 6
i’ve been to plenty of weddings where the groom doesn’t dance, he’ll usually just hang out with his guy friends.
i don’t dance but my hubby does, and we went with no dancing. being a bride, everyone would try to pull me onto the dance floor and i just wasn’t ok with that.
Post # 7
I don’t like to dance and either does my Fiance. We will be doing the first dance but getting some lessons. After that I’m not sure what to do. We will be doing the big greek dance but other than that I don’t enjoy dancing. It’s one of the things I’m worried about since I don’t like being the center of attention. I’m sure it will be fine. After all, it is your day and you want to be comfortable and happy!