Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
So my FI isn’t interested in wearing the boutineers. He doesn’t really have much say for things in the wedding, but when he does have a strong opinion, I try to let him have his way or take it in consideration. I have already made corsages for the ladies and I really wanted to have the boutineers for the men. I think it’s such a nice way to show who’s who and honor them. I made these corsages and the boutineer as a mock up – altho he says it’s tacky looking! Ugh…Would it be okay if him and his best man don’t wear one, and the fathers, grandfathers wear them?
Post # 3
Sure, if they (the fathers and grandfathers) want to wear them.
Post # 4
Those are nice, but they are a bit feminine looking. Is he opposed to the very idea or would he come round if it was a different design. Maybe get him to have some input into the design.
Post # 5
I think he might prefer a different style. Could you surprise him with a boutonniere that reflected one of his interests or hobbies?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
That picture makes it look a lot bigger than it is. You really can’t see the pink in person unless standing right next to him. And he’s into hunting, I’ve showed him some hunting themed ones, or even pearl ones that go with the themes. He hates them all. I did recomment a tie clip, which I DO like the idea, but I’m afraid with the guys wearing them, that they won’t be too noticeable to identify the males…
Post # 7
That’s realllly girly. My FI wouldn’t be excited either. I would try to find something more masculine.
Post # 8
I think you did a wonderful job, but my husband wouldn’t wear that either. I made my men fabric flowers with vintage fishing lures pinned to them. They all loved them, and have all added the lures to their tackle boxes! They were stoked that it included something they could use later.
Post # 9
Everyone is going to know who the groomsmen are, they are the guys in the matching suits/tuxes with the matching ties. I think you should let it go if he doesn’t like it.
Post # 10
My groom didn’t like the bouts I wanted to buy, & like you, I was eager to give him is way when he voiced a strong opinion on something, since he rarely gave two sh*ts about the wedding lol.
But, the bouts I wanted them to wear were absolutely PERFECT & the thought of them not wearing them would have made me cry. I compromised with him & told him I wouldn’t use any moss accents at our wedding (I love moss; he thinks it looks like puke) if he would wear the bout.
At the wedding everybody LOVED this bout, & he got so many compiments & now he is very happy I pushed it on him 😛
I love the bouts you made! If you genuinely adore them too, I would just tell him how you’ve put a TON of time & energy into the wedding, & the least he could do is show up wearing something you’ve requested.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t make him wear one if he doesn’t want to. Good luck!
Post # 12
Yeah those are pretty feminine. My SO wouldn’t touch that- I mean it’s covered in lace! I recommend real flowers/greenery or some kind of alternative.
Post # 13
does he not want to wear one at all or does he just not want to wear those particular ones? i agree with the person above that said they’re pretty feminine looking
ETA: oh, i see you said above he doesnt like any of them. i don’t think you should make him wear one then. maybe if they all have the same ties or something, they’ll already stand out as memberes of the wedding party
Post # 14
I’m sorry but they really are exceptionally girly and I can’t imagine my DH (a man with a fondness for pink shirts!) being prepared to wear your design. It might well be that your FI would be prepared to wear a buttonhole (as we call them in the UK) but you need to show him more options. None of them, with respect, that include lace or squashy pink roses.
If he really doesn’t want to wear one them respect his views. It’s not as if anyone is going to confuse him with a random guest is it?
Post # 15
Flip this around…how annoyed would you be if you didn’t want a bouquet but he insisted? Whose opinion would be the one to ‘win’?
Post # 16
If your groom is wesring a suit, could you get matching pocket squares for him and his groomsmen rather than boutonnieres? I’m pretty sure if I tried to get my Fi to wear the above buttonhole, he would strongly refuse becausebhe really hates crafty/DIY stuff.