Post # 1
Hey ladies! Quick opinion.
My fiance and his groomsmen are all wearing tuxes, but we were trying to think of something to do so he will stand out. He doesn’t like the idea of the groomsmen wearing colored vests and bowties, and he isn’t too keen on wearing a white vest and bow tie. Soooo, we were thinking we could put them all in black tuxes with black vests, and then have him wear a black bow tie and the groomsmen wear black ties. Do you think this will look odd? I have attached a few inspiration pics that I saw online below.
Be honest please!!
Post # 3
Honestly, I think it will look great! Very classy! I don’t like colored vests so this is probably what I will do for my wedding as well =)
Post # 4
I voted “I would avoid it” because I personally would avoid it. I don’t think it looks bad, it just isn’t for me. I feel like it looks like they are different levels of formal, maybe not going to the same “party”…but it’s subtle enough and the all black is dressy enough that I think it could work.
We are differentiating with his men being in a different shade of gray (charcoal for him, medium gray for them), but they will all be in suits. No idea about ties yet. Groom will be wearing a vest, I don’t know about the groomsmen, but that might be differentiating also for them.
When I originally thought of it, I thought maybe he would wear a white vest and tie, vs them in black vest and tie, both in black suits and white shirts (or whatever color), but I thought he would be renting instead of buying his suit…now there’s really no way for them to match unless he asks them to buy too (no).
I don’t like the colored vest thing either.
Post # 5
I think it looks great! A way of singling out the groom that still looks elegant.
Post # 6
The bow tie is a more sophisticated look with a tuxedo (technically speaking, the long tie is incorrect, but it has become widely accepted). So, by doing this, you’ll set the groom apart in a very elegant way – making him look the mosts debonnair of the gentlemen in the wedding party. I think it’s a great idea.
Post # 7
I love this idea… so much that we’re doing it! I even made the bowtie myself. :}
Post # 8
If you like @2BeeMrsE:’s point (and it has some validity for sure) then you could do, as she suggests, the groom in a white waistcoat — check out this one: http://www.clermontdirect.com/cotton-white-marcella-waistcoat-p-132.html — and the groomsmen in black ones. A white bow tie is technically incorrect with a tuxedo, but genrally accepted for the groom, at his own wedding. The white vest is entirey correct. You can also break rules if you want.
Technically speaking, the long ties are incorrect with a tuxedo as well, but the look was considered very fashionable for a few years. It’s less common now, but still done. And, if you like it, and the groom likes it, hey, just do it. Black long ties are also a much better way to set the groom apart than coloured vests. Coloured vests are so … prom.
Post # 9
@MsSkater: Thank you so much for posting this! I was about to post a thread asking a similar question when I saw this thread. The FI and I are planning on doing the same thing – with him wearing a tux and his groomsmen wearing black suits and black ties – but like you, we weren’t sure that it would work. However, after seeing the photos you posted and seeing the responses here, I think we’re sold on the idea. So, to answer your original question, I think it’s a great idea but then again, I am biased towards it lol.
@Duncan: I’m so glad to see you posted your thoughts about this because you’re always so knowledgeable about men’s attire, being a man yourself
Post # 10
I love that!! It looks very sophisticated. 🙂