Groom is changing his mind and wants GM in just shirts… (POLL)

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: What do you think of groomsmen in just shirts?
    Awesome and not too informal! : (10 votes)
    24 %
    Nope. Too informal. Go with vests. : (25 votes)
    60 %
    ... in JUST shirts? Bow chicka bow wow. : (7 votes)
    17 %
    I have another suggestion! : (0 votes)
  • Post # 2
    564 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016


    I think vests would be more formal.

    However, if it is going to be really really hot- you might want to cut the guys some slack and let them wear just shirts.

    Post # 4
    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Easton's Beach Rotunda Ballroom

    MrsRevolutionize:  i’m with you thinking it will be informal…but from your groom’s point of view he probably just feels the guys are going to take the vests off anyways. Especially if it’s hot. My Fi is going with full tuxes but no vests for that reason. 

    Post # 5
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Just shirts are nice.. but I voted for Vests because I absolutely love that photo!! I am trying to convince my Fiance to do just vests at the moment! Sometimes guys can be such a pain in the butt! Why oh why can’t they just agree with everything we want? 😉 haha. but in all reality I am letting my fiance make the decision on what the guys wear because it’s only fair… Good Luck 🙂

    Post # 6
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Vests and pants are not particularly more formal than just shirts, as it has no classical precedent.  If you’re showing shirt sleeves, you’re not in a suit, period.  I don’t think it makes a ton of difference, but who is buying the shirts?  They need to fit perfectly, and be without darts, which means they should be altered for each groomsman, and that the alterations should be done from the side seams.  There should also be a no suspenders decree, as showing suspenders does not fit, at all, with a wedding where the groom is in a suit.  Whereas, with the vests, it should be the opposite, as one should not wear a belt with a vest, especially not for the formal look you’re aiming for.

    Post # 7
    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    Post # 8
    42101 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t think it would kill them to dress up (even slightly) for your wedding.

    Post # 9
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    MrsRevolutionize:  I think it will be fine, if that’s what he wants then it is what you should do.


    And thank you for adding the just shirts option in the poll because that is exactly what I thought when you said it.

    Post # 10
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    AmyBamy:  this is the exact reason the cummerbund was developed for Black Tie, so the waistband, and working parts of the shirt can remain covered, without the warmth generated by the waistcoat.

    Post # 11
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We’re having ours just in shirts and I think it’ll be fine. I get what you mean about it possibly not matching the venue, though. Our ceremony is in a butterfly conservatory and it is HOT in there, so we were totally down with shirts. The rest of our wedding is super casual too, my dress included. I’d be a little more hesitant to do just shirts if our wedding was fancier! If it’s that important to your FI though, I’m sure it’ll be just fine 🙂

    Post # 12
    7025 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    MrsRevolutionize:  Groom’s friends, groom’s choice.

    I think this is one area where the groom should have the final say, so long as it’s not too crazy. He doesn’t get to override you on the bridesmaids’ dresses (I assume), so I think you should let him have his way with the groomsmen’s attire.

    Post # 14
    602 posts
    Busy bee

    I think it would be cool if he was the only one in a vest, and the groomsmen were wearing shirts.

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