Post # 1
This is a sorta vent so please put up with me for the next 30 seconds. My groom is a great one. He is very interested in the wedding and has opinions about what he wants, etc. The problem is – he is very busy. He is overscheduled at work, he coaches basketball with practices at least 3 times a week and tournaments ALL weekend. With his schedule it’s been very difficult to plan venue visits. I feel like I can’t get the planning underway because of this. We’ve been to see a few places but nothing blew us away (well there was one place but long story). We have a few more to see and I feel like such a nag hounding him for his schedule constantly. At the same time, I feel like the little bit of free time he has I don’t want to jump on him as soon as he walks in with “wedding talk.”
Post # 3
Would he be ok with you going alone (or with family or friends) to some places, just to rule them out? That way you can narrow down what you do and don’t like, and he won’t have to be there for all the ones you wouldn’t have liked anyway.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts
Can you narrow down what he wants to have an ultimate say in? I would assume he’d want to look at venues, maybe photographers, caterer, etc., but there might be other things he’s willing to leave up to you.
As for the venue search right now, I like what artbee suggested. You probably know what types of places you’re looking for and can really involve him in the final important part of the selection.
Also, I understand not wanting to bombard him with wedding talk when he first gets home, but it’s obviously bothering you not to. I would probably tell him that you’ve got wedding stuff to discuss today (this weekend, in the next three days, whatever) and to let you know when he wants to discuss it. That way you don’t come off as nagging, but he knows your timeline.