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My FI saw a photo of me in my dress. I am torn between canceling my order and just dealing with the fact that he saw it. It isn't so much that I am worried about the old wise tale but wanting my FI to be surprised when I walk down the aisle. What should I do?? Keep or cancel? I loved two dresses equally at the store...would you go with the other dress?
Keep it. come July he won't remember what it looked like in the picture anyway! All he probably saw was a white dress. Come the wedding he will be totally stunned...
I think you should just keep it. I totally get why you're concerned, but your FI is probably not going to remember what it looked like come July. My FI will ask if I'm wearing a new outfit... when I've worn it at least twice around him! I really doubt he's going to remember.
Also, you are going to look so different when your hair and makeup are done, when your dress is fitted and when you're walking down the aisle towards him.
keep it. I am assuming that it was either a cellphone photo or one that was downloaded on to your computer. Chances of what you look like in the picture compared to what you will look like on your wedding day are completely different. Does that make sense? I am not sure if I am explaining as clear as I am thinking it LOL
If it's a matter of wanting to surprise your man, and not for traditions' sake, then you should definitely keep it. Yes, he saw the dress (and he probably won't even remember it!) but think about how much other things go into your special reveal, besides the dress; your hair, make-up, veil, etc. Just seeing a picture of you in the dress will be a million times different then seeing you walking down the aisle on your special day. Keep the dress. And maybe you'd like to lead him on into thinking that you did change it, and once again he will have no idea what to expect!
He saw a pic... but men do not remember things.
Besides you were not completely done up or anything... The effect it totally different the day of.
I completely agree. Keep the dress... you probably won't find another one you are as in love with as this one anyways!
Did he just glimpse the picture or study it? If he's anything like my man, he won't even remember that it was a white dress by the time the wedding comes around. :) Keep it!
he didn't study it -- but he saw it and knew he shouldnt have. he saw it on my iPhone which has pretty good picture quality. i have another dress in mind--i couldnt decide between the two at the store so i wouldnt be bummed if i replaced the original with it. i am just feeling silly if i do! i told him that i called and canceled the dress and he seemed as if he thought that was a good idea.
this is the one i bought:
this is the one i equally loved:
i don't think my fi would be able to tell the difference honestly between those. just keep yours, the effect will be amazing!
Hmm... Like most guys, I think your fiance will be seeing YOU, not the dress, when you get married... I think this is how guys think.
Also, the dress you might replace it with isn't different enough from the first dress to justify it (if you're only replacing it for your fiance's sake).
I think you will look beautiful and happy and your fiance probably just saw "white dress" and that was it.
Keep it! Like others have said, he won't remember what it looks like and even if he does, it won't be the same when your hair and make-up are done. It's a beautiful dress, btw.
Keep it - there's no way he's going to remember!! Plus, even if he did, what you look like in that pic will be NOTHING compared to how you'll look like that day, walking towards him. I wouldn't worry about it.
Keep it for all of the reasons already mentioned. It's a beautiful dress, so don't worry about it for even one second more! :)
Keep your original dress...they are so similar that he'd never know the difference anyways. Like the other Bees have said...you'll look totally different on your wedding day. My FH saw a pic of me in my dress very briefly...and I was like "AAAHhhHHHHhhhh" and he looked away and said..."All I saw was a white dress" LOL I think you're safe!
keep it - guys barely notice things like that. unless you have a groom like the one that was on SYTTD that was talking about how he doesnt "like rouching" or "thinks that color washes her out" - i doubt he could even tell you what it looks like now.
seriously - if you love the dress keep it.
now if my FH had actually saw ME IN the dress - like in person... i might wanna switch. but its a pic. youre safe!
keep it! a pic of you in it and you actually in it is different! my FI saw a pic of me in mine too and he said, its not the same.....yuo walking down the aisle is something totally different and honestly, they aren't going to remember anyway! : )
Definitely keep it. Like others already said, I doubt he'd remember the details of the dress from seeing one picture. If you love the dress, keep it!
I say keep it. I bet if you asked him to describe what the dress looks like he would give an incredibly vague description, because he is male, and no offence to males but they do tend to have a nack for not noticing details.
Remember on your wedding day it will be the whole package- not just the dress but the hair, makeup, shoes, accessories, etc. so even if he does remember the dress it will look completely different.
I agree with everyone else, keep it . . . Men aren't very good at remembering details, and seeing a picture is very differen than seeing it on a person. Plus, it's more about the moment than the actual dress.
Keep it!!!! He will not remember the picture and when he sees you, he will just be caught in the moment and how beautiful you look!
Keep it! He will not remember your dress the way you think he will. While we commit each and every detail of our dress to memories, that is because we have researched it/tried it on/looked it up online/seen other people post it a billion times. Also, the dresses you posted are of very similar sillhouette, there is no way he will know whether the one he saw was the original or the other.
you could go try on like 10 dresses and take a picture of each of them and then tell him that the dress he saw was a potential one and now you want to show him more potential ones. After seeing 11 dresses, he probably won't know which was which. Therefor the element of suprise is still there.
This sounds silly but I would do it, if I wanted him to be suprised.
Keep it. He totally won't remember, and if he does, it's going to look totally different on your wedding day.
i would say keep it since usually guys dont pay attention to the details of the dress such as lace and crystals if you have them on your dress. I also would go and try on some more dresses and kinda show him them also that way hes kinda confused on the dress. In korean tradition the fiance sees the dress so my fiance has seen the dress in pics but is clueless as to the little details of the dress. :)
Keep it. Men are kinda Homer Simpson about stuff like that... he'll probably only remember the vague details about it like "Oh yeah, its strapless with some kinda long thing attached to the back, and ... uh... its white?"
However, now that he knows don't discuss or leave your dress hanging in front of him. Keep it as guarded as it was before. With the makeup and shoes and veil and just the sheer joy of getting married the dress will look pretty different and uniquely YOU on the final day, and he will still be surprised!
Keep it! He is a guy! he will totally forget what it looks like! and you will have fab shoes and make up and hair done also which completes the entire look! I wouldnt worry about it.
Keep it. If your FI is anything like mines he will forget about it in a week. They don't look at details like we do.
Keep it, I doubt he will remember, and even if he does, the excitement and surprise will still be there when he first sees you once you're all ready.
Old Wives Tales are bunk! He won't remember anything other than it was a white dress. Seriously
UPDATE: I canceled the order!!! I know I am silly. But my FI won't even let me bring a pillow outside after dark because it is bad luck!
Thank you for all your reassurance. In the end I just really wanted to get a new one (even though he really is very much "Homer Simpson" about these types of things)! It just felt right!
keep it!
theres a difference in seeing you in it in a picture, and actually seeing you all dolled up and extra gorgeous on your wedding day!
I say keep it! He will probably not remember the details. Plus, if they are regular digital camera photos they do not really do justice to the dress!
I would not be surprised if I showed my fiance a line of 10 similar dresses, even after our wedding and he couldn't pick out exactly which one i wore. They're seeing you, not your dress. Guys are not wired like that. I think you'd be batty to take back a dress you love b/c he may have seen the dress. It'll be way different in person.
Well, whatever you are wearing, he's gonna totally freak when he sees you in it!
KEEP IT!!
Remember ur hair & make up wasn't done & u were probably standing in a bridal shop. No big deal he will still be knocked out by how beautiful you look on your wedding day. No worries!!
I hope you didn't lose money on your canceled order. Honestly, I really don't think that he would have even recognized it when you are wearing it at the wedding but oh well.
he wont remember! my FI saw a pic of me in mine and a month later he couldnt remember what it looked like or anything. seriously guys are so clueless...
I say keep it!!!!!!!
he won't remember anything...when he say it he probably KNEW he wasn't supposed to and just thought "ahhh---fiance'---dress--white---wedding..." and was stunned ;)
so he will be seeing it for the first time on your wedding day :)
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