Post # 1
My bf is getting married in November and I was wandering if it is going to be a problem if they don’t have a best man, even though she will have a maid of honor? Her fiance refuses to pick a best man, completely aviods the subject, so its not like she can force the issue. Will someone have to just come up during the ceramony just to be a witness? How will this work?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
He doesn’t have to have any groomsmen if he doesn’t want to! It’s perfectly fine for her to have BMs and him to not have anyone. 🙂
Post # 4
I thought you meant your bf.. and then i realised you were talking about your Best friend! so many acronynms these days! you need a witness so basically anyone can go up and sign.
Post # 5
Yeah there is no need for him to have someone up there with him if he doesn’t want to. And there will be plenty of witnesses in the church whether they are standing up or not. In MA the only witness you need is your officiant! If he needs someone to sign as a witness just have one of his parents do it.
Post # 6
LOL! Sorry, ok I shouldn’t laugh but my FI is the king of procrastination when it comes to this. He only FINALLY asked his guys to ‘be in the wedding’ (yes, that’s exactly what he asked – if they would ‘be in the wedding’) about 2 months ago and our wedding is in September. I asked my girls last summer. Nice. Perhaps he’s still getting used to things and will ask in his own time – if not, he doesn’t have to have to have a BM or Groomsmen. Any friend, a parent, etc could be a witness!
Post # 7
If your best friend was getting married in July I would think maybe you’re my best friend.
My FI has asked his three friends to be in the wedding, and has one in mind to be the best man, however thus far he has failed to actually ask anybody. He’s kind of of the mind that he shouldn’t have to choose, but it’s going to be fairly obvious when one person has to make a speech and sign our marriage certificate…
Post # 8
Haha My FI don’t want any either, he want just me and him, but that’s not going to happen. I have my sister for a BM and I have older son’s that will be his GM….so he don’t have a choice in the matter, but don’t worry he do not need a GM it will be just fine.
Post # 9
@Bella Luna: we’re also getting married in Sept and my FI STILL hasn’t picked his groomsmen! Talk about procrastination, lol.
And I agree with the other posters. No need for him to have a best man or any groomsmen if he doesn’t want to.
Post # 10
Guys are just so different… esp if they don’t have a lot of close friends. I asked my bridesmaids no more than a couple days after getting engaged. my fiance waited to ask his best man for… i dont even know how long, but it was months and months later. I was beginning to think he would never ask, but then just out of nowhere he asked. tell your friend to be patient. if her fiance wants a best man he’ll get around to asking eventually.
Post # 11
It’s okay if he doesn’t have anyone there. The MOH should probably hold both rings for the ceremony then. Not all states require there to be witnesses. If they do, they should ask a family member (a parent maybe).
Post # 12
is it possible he’s still mulling it over??
we’ve been engaged since january 3rd, i picked my BMs within the week (no brainer, my sisters) but he has yet to ask anyone. he knows who he wants to ask, but just hasnt done it yet! we have a wedsite and our invites go in the mail in 3 weeks… i’ve pretty much told him that if he is going to ask anyone, he needs to soon… as i want a wedding party page on the wedsite! if he chooses not to have anyone… well, thats his choice.
Post # 13
Thanks for every one’s feed back. So apparently this is very common for the guy to take his time. Who knows if my friend’s fiance will pick any one but it’s good to know he doesn’t need to. Honestly I don’t know what the big deal is. I asked if he wanted to pick his dad and didn’t know about that either. When I got married, my husband took no time at all.
Post # 14
@ Hilsy85, I am in the same boat. We are getting married in September and he still hasn’t asked all of his groomsmen. I have been asking him to for months, constantly reminding him and he says he knows, he will, etc. What is the problem? Sheesh. Good luck!