Post # 1
My fiance and I live long distance and he is extremely busy so I do all the wedding planning. Our wedding is about 6 mths away so I am trying to make sure he does everything he needs to do during the one week he’s in town since we won’t see each other again till the wedding!
So my question to the boards is: What are some of the groom responsibilties that he MUST complete (that no one else can do for him?) This is what I have so far:
GROOM TO DO
1. attend premarital counseling session (req’d by our church)
2. browse/try on wedding bands
3. menu tasting for reception site
4. tux browsing and fitting
5. possible cake tasting (cuz he probably wants to, although i could just choose myself =P )
Are there any key , important responsibilties that I am missing? (I know we’ll have to complete a marriage license, which I will mail to him and have him notarize and mail back to me).
What are important responsbilities that your husbands/fiances were required to fulfill prior to the big day?
Post # 3
Buy him this book: The Knot Guide for the Groom.
My husband enjoyed it; it’s lighthearted, but full of good info. In fact, I borrowed it a couple times to figure some general wedding planning stuff out (like what order people stand in for the processional/ceremony). (It’s also good b/c there’s a section on what he should tell his groomsmen to do.)
But I think you’ve got the basics covered on the list. Good job!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel
Sounds good to me! Mr Kiwi loved: http://www.amazon.com/Engaged-Groom-Youre-Getting-Married/dp/0060855827/ref=pd_sim_b_3_img/103-6477789-5531800?ie=UTF8&qid=1190924291&sr=8-1 (The engaged groom)
Have him think about what kinds of music he wants, and whether there are any important pictures he can think of. Definitely music, though. Mr. Kiwi had a great time choosing that!
Post # 5
sounds like you have most of it…the music was something my FI wanted to have his hands in, so he’s kinda taken that on. And that’s something you guys could do longdistance/email style 🙂
Post # 6
Make sure he IS able to just notarize the license and send it to you. In California both parties need to show up in person, together, to get a license.
If you two are planning anything other than the "rock n’ sway" for your first dance, maybe get a little practice in. If you have a poofy dress, see if you can at least wear something similarly poofy (like your crinoline) when you practice, for both your sakes.
Post # 7
music! i have officially added it to his to-do list. thanks for the reminder girls!
tanya2s – yep i checked with our state laws and its okay for me to send him the licensed and mail it back to me. if we were in calif., i’d be screwed b/c we both cannot show up in person.
and dancing- i almost forgot about this. blech. it makes me cringe.. we’re not much dancers. =(
Post # 8
Some things you need him to do might not need to be done during the week that he visits you, like selecting music for example. Also make sure you two both set some time up to write the ceremony and wedding day timeline. Maybe write his own vows if you’re doing that? Those are things he could do long distance though. If you’re doing engagement photos, you’ll want to be sure to schedule that during his visit; ditto for any vendors he wants to check out. You might want to hit up some stores you’re registered at and pick out items together too.
Things I want my fiance to do himself: order the favours (we’re buying them from one of his contacts, so it makes sense for him to do it), pick a DJ, plan/book the honeymoon, book the limo.
Things I want him to help me with: design save-the-dates and invitations, create the guest list, take dance lessons, create a gift registry, decide on the catering menu, and a bunch of last minute things like getting the marriage license, the seating plan etc.