Post # 1
So this weekend we went and looked at Suits for our groomsman. We want them in khaki suits which we found a nice one yeah! but here is the problem, well good ole mr. suit guy said that the groom needs to be wearing the same suit, just add a tie (the GM’s will be sans ties)….. well we originally decided that my FI would wear a charcoal gray suit, but now he is all confused by this guy who "probably knows more than we do" grrrr…. . I dont want him to look identical to the GM’s I want him to stand out! And it doesnt help that FI can not wear khaki with his skin color!
So I am trying to take a poll, do you think the groom should be the same as the groomsman or should he stand out? What are you guys doing?
Post # 3
My FI is wearing the same suit as the GM and the only thing having him standout will be the boutonniere (spelling). Plus, he’s way better looking than the rest of the GM
Post # 4
I think it is up to you. My Mr. wore the same thing as his Best Man (only attendant), just had a different bout.
Post # 5
this sucks…bc i just read on some website in the last 48 hrs the same exact thing. i’m curious to know what others think on this topic.
i figure that as long as they match in the air of formality then it should be ok. If the gm are casual, then the groom should be casual. at the same time the grooms attire should match the formality of your gown. so if you are in a princess ballgown, then he needs to be more formal, and in turn so will his gm.
hmmmm….i clearly shed no light on this matter……..
Post # 6
My groom is wearing a khaki suit, and the groomsmen are wearing matching pants, but no jacket (DW on a beach). His bout is also a little more elaborate.
Originally we were going to have all the groomsmen wear khaki suits and the groom in chocolate brown, but we decided to go more casual.
I think it’s fine to have the groom stand out, but i’m not sure how charcoal grey would match with khaki. Have you thought about brown, black, or cream for the groom?
Post # 7
I feel like it looks better in pictures when groom and groomsmen wear the same suit/tux. I think it also might look better if they are all wearing a tie (or not)- with the groom’s tie being different- Maybe the groom wears pink, and the groomsmen wear a pink and green striped tie (I have no idea what your colors are- but just an example) Also you can have him have a white boutonniere with the groomsmen wearing a the wedding color.
But just remember, it is your wedding, and if you think it looks good with the groom in a different suit- go for it!
Post # 8
The bride does not wear the same thing as the BMs, so why should the groom be forced to wear the same thing as the GMs? Yes, we know a wedding is all about the bride, but let’s not forget our fantastic, supportive grooms.
Do whatever is comfortable for you. I think a charcoal suit would just great for the groom, and khaki suits for GMs. Good luck!
Post # 9
My parents bought my FI a super nice suit for the wedding.
So my FI isn’t going to match the rest of the guys. So we just bought the GMs their suits so at least they match each other (Barney’s warehouse sale!!!)
Post # 10
I think charcoal and khaki would not go right together. Just seems different levels of formality and just not very complementary colors. What about a darker khaki or tan if it’s so important to you that he stands out. Really I would personally go for the same color.
Post # 11
That is so untrue. al ot of the formal weddings i have been to have the groom in White Tie (Tails) and the groomsmen in plain old Tuxes. We are just having our guys wear navy suits. We will give suggestions as to where to buy them if they do not already own one or theirs does not fit well. we will also offer rental options. this means my FI will probably be in a different suit. We may also be able to get a deal from a clothing manufacturer that makes high end suits that I have a connection too.
Post # 12
Wow, I typed that a little fast I menat to say "A lot of the formal weddings I have been to…."
Post # 13
I’m of the opinion that they should be in the same or similar suits. If your groom looks best in charcoal, why not match the groomsmen to him? Are you very committed to khaki on the groomsmen? You can set him apart in shirt color, tie, or boutonniere.
Post # 14
thanks guys for all the comments.
our wedding colors are charcoal, white and khaki (insert puzzled stares…) yes we know they arent traditional, but we are tying them in really well . we have hints of tangerine & strawberry infused into the wedding too!
The BM’s have jcrew charcoal gray dresses, and we were set on the khaki suits for the guys, but the FI doesnt wear khaki well we found this out after we shot our engagement pics and he wore a khaki shirt which completely washed him out…
just worried we cant find charcoal suits to match the same as the BM dresses.
Also its an all outdoor wedding, and we dont want it too formal, just relaxed (so no black)… this is hard.
Post # 15
Hmmmm. I am having trouble picturing. I would actually be tempted to put the GMs in charcoal suits, your FI also, and differentiate with a different tie. Maybe use the khaki as an accent color. I also think that the level of formality of a khaki suit vs a charcoal suit is very different (more so than white tie and black tie, which are still both formalwear). And in most weddings I think the GMs and the groom are dressed very much alike, with color of vest or tie and boutonniere being the main thing that differentiates.
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I think you should do what you like most! It sounds like you’d like your groom to be wearing a different suit, and there is no reason why you shouldnt do it that way! Perhaps hop on to David’s Bridal online "dress your party" tool here:
and see how the different suit on your groom looks standing next to everyone else in the wedding party. If it looks good to you, then why not? GL!