Post # 1
My FH and I decided on this Halloween theme thing together, but he doesn’t seem to like many of my decor ideas so far. He said a couple of days ago, “Baby, I’m gonna leave the planning to you.” I feel bad, I want him to be involved because the theme was his own idea in the first place, but what can I do to make it more fun/interesting for him? I want him to help pick things so its OUR wedding, not MY big day alone. HELP!!!!
Post # 3
Give him one specific task to research. Some guys aren’t good with dealing at the whole picture at once.
Post # 4
@Treeline: Hey, thanks, I never really thought of it that way. His attention span is short usually. Too much at once may be overwhelming.
Post # 5
2014 huh? I think I know what’s wrong with your guy.
He’s a dude! lol.
Guys just aren’t that interested in wedding planning; they don’t get excited about small details or far away events; they are more interested in the here and now. I know from experience…I couldn’t even talk to my FI about anything wedding related until the wedding got a little closer (and I am still the one to bring up the subject 9 months out). Give him some time and he’ll surely come around. And just come to expect the “whatever you like baby” a lot. Guys like that answer because it keeps their woman happy haha.
Post # 6
@IngridS: Youhave a good point too. He was excited to pick the theme…it stopped there lol. He’s a 23 year old interested in cars and video games. He is a lot more about “in the moment” than I am. I should have figured this one out on my own! thanks though, it helps to know I’m not the only one in this boat
Post # 7
@Treeline: +1 Thats what I did with my FH.
Also – just ask him to narrow things down for you. I told my FI to look at the “vintage” themed STDs – and asked him to narrow it down to five or so. I also plan on doing this with invitations, monograms, food, etc… that way, he’ll get a “say” in the decor and stuff! Makes them feel like their apart of the planning process without getting too overwhelmed.
Post # 8
@IngridS: —> THIS
If your Wedding is truly October 2014, (as per your WBee Profile)… then it is understandable WHY you can’t get him to focus. He just isn’t there yet.
My Elopement Wedding is December, and our Back Home Reception and Honeymoon happens in January 2013… I am JUST NOW getting at a point where my Hubby-2-B is open to discussing details (aprox 4 months out)
Men just are not on the same wave-length as us women when it comes to the “details” in life… not their fault, they just naturally aren’t “the gatherers” (we are). They are “the hunters”… so find a way to use his talents in that regard some way (task specific, or “Do some research and find us the best possible ___”)
Hope this helps,