Post # 1
So, I have pictured and dreamed of my wedding my entire life, haven’t most girls? Purple is my favorite color, I have ALWAYS LOVED purple, and of course my bridesmaids are wearing purple. My groom and discussed a purple and silver vintage/antique theme back when we got engaged, and I have gone with that for my dress and for the bridesmaids dresses (althogh it has been slightly harder to find bridesmaids dresses to fit my vision). However my groom since to think, and he is serious, that since I am wearing Ivory he gets to wear whatever color he wants as long as it matches ME. The groomsmen will all be in either grey or black suits, and he wants to wear like a yellow or orange tie to match my ivory dress… when yellow or orange are going to be NOWHERE else in the wedding designs! He said that purple (eggplant, a dark shade), and silver are very dark and blah, and the wedding is going to be very dark and drab. I have already had this vision in my head and made purchases and plan since MAY, and we discussed things, am I supposed to change my colors now because he wants things a little lighter?? Do I now need to add some yellow?? Please help! I need some opinions!!
Post # 2
You could do different shades of purple not just dark purple (like lavender or a pastel purple ect) so it’s not all super dark but explaine to him how yellow and Orange won’t work and how you thought he was on board for purple. Expline how you already made purchase but at the end of the day just try to compromise somehow
Post # 2
Is a tie something to really be up in arms about? I don’t think it means you have to change your wedding colors at all; orange and purple can go together if chosen correctly. And if it’s just the tie he wants to change then I think it’s worth the compromise. Sounds like you’re getting everything else you want. Just because you’ve dreamed of this for a long time doesn’t mean you trump him.
Post # 4
My groom picked his tie. I let him and it just made him feel both involved and comfortable.
Post # 5
binardi81082: You are sure to get some Bees telling you that he can dress himeself, but some men just need a little help. Those same Bees would themselves draw the line somewhere with their FI’s choices, so ignore the snark.
First of all, orange and yellow do not match ivory. His choice will look a little disjointed with the rest of the wedding.
Are you including any color other than purple and silver anywhere else in the wedding?
I would find him a stunning tie that he falls in love with to show him that silver and purple need not be dark.
or find a tie with purple and ivory “so he will match you”
or find a tie with orange, silver and purple
Post # 6
oh wow it’s like there are two people involved in the wedding?
Post # 7
I totally get having a vision, but compromise is key in any relationship. I love that FI is involved and that our wedding will be a reflection of US, and not just me.
Post # 8
I don’t think that’s categorised as the groom being too involved.
Would be nice to just add in some colours for him, it is his wedding too, and it’s great that he has some input.
Purple is contrast to yellow and orange. Constrast is not a bad thing. It can look really nice because of the contrast. As your dress is ivory, it would be fine. In fact, it would be an accent colour to your colour chart. You wouldn’t need to change much, you can keep your colours as it is and have him wear his tie. <br /><br />
Post # 9
He has been involved in MANY things, trust me. He has been an intricate part of picking the photographer, the DJ and music, the venue, the detail of the Save the Dates we sent.. He has been VERY hands on! We have been a team. I thought we were on track with this, and that he was on board with the colors, as we had previously discussed. I want him to be happy too, but I don’t see how an orange or yellow tie will work if there is no orange or yellow anywhere else in wedding…
Post # 10
julies1949: I like a few of those ties! I will see if any of those spark his interest! 🙂 I am open to shades of purple for sure! I am not sure he is thinking about how it may look in pictures…
Post # 11
binardi81082: you could wear orange shoes
Post # 12
stephncollins: He has been extremely involved… help with deciding on Save the Dates and invitiations, things that I didn’t think he would care about. I am glad he did! 🙂 He will have main control of the music selection.
Post # 13
Seriously, it’s a tie. No one will even notice.
Post # 14
binardi81082: my FI has also been very involved. It’s been great but there have been times where he’s questioned something or suggested something that just doesn’t go.
Our colors are all very soft and neutral with shades of ivory, blush and a little green. I really wanted the guys to wear tan suits. He completely shot that down and said he wanted a grey tux. I let him have that since it is what he’s wearing. He was adament about it from the start. They are going to wear bowties but we haven’t decided on those yet. They will be some shade of light blush pink though.. not really what he’d pick out himself, but its a compromise.
Post # 15
binardi81082: It’s his wedding too, I think you need to compramise.