Groom too involved in planning/details of wedding

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

You could do different shades of purple not just dark purple (like lavender or a pastel purple ect) so it’s not all super dark but explaine to him how yellow and Orange won’t work and how you thought he was on board for purple. Expline how you already made purchase but at the end of the day just try to compromise somehow

Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Is a tie something to really be up in arms about? I don’t think it means you have to change your wedding colors at all; orange and purple can go together if chosen correctly. And if it’s just the tie he wants to change then I think it’s worth the compromise. Sounds like you’re getting everything else you want. Just because you’ve dreamed of this for a long time doesn’t mean you trump him.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My groom picked his tie. I let him and it just made him feel both involved and comfortable. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

binardi81082:  You are sure to get some Bees telling you that he can dress himeself, but some men just need a little help. Those same Bees would themselves draw the line somewhere with their FI’s choices, so ignore the snark.

First of all, orange and yellow do not match ivory. His choice will look a little disjointed with the rest of the wedding.

Are you including any color other than purple and silver anywhere else in the wedding?

I would find him a stunning tie that he falls in love with to show him that silver and purple need not be dark.

 

or find a tie with purple and ivory “so he will match you”

or find a tie with orange, silver and purple

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

oh wow it’s like there are two people involved in the wedding?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I totally get having a vision, but compromise is key in any relationship. I love that FI is involved and that our wedding will be a reflection of US, and not just me.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I don’t think that’s categorised as the groom being too involved. 

Would be nice to just add in some colours for him, it is his wedding too, and it’s great that he has some input. 

Purple is contrast to yellow and orange. Constrast is not a bad thing. It can look really nice because of the contrast. As your dress is ivory, it would be fine. In fact, it would be an accent colour to your colour chart. You wouldn’t need to change much, you can keep your colours as it is and have him wear his tie. <br /><br />

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Seriously, it’s a tie. No one will even notice. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

binardi81082:  my FI has also been very involved. It’s been great but there have been times where he’s questioned something or suggested something that just doesn’t go.

Our colors are all very soft and neutral with shades of ivory, blush and a little green. I really wanted the guys to wear tan suits. He completely shot that down and said he wanted a grey tux. I let him have that since it is what he’s wearing. He was adament about it from the start. They are going to wear bowties but we haven’t decided on those yet. They will be some shade of light blush pink though.. not really what he’d pick out himself, but its a compromise.

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