Weddingbee boards

We are getting married next month after a very short engagement (30th August).  We've been together for four years to the date of our wedding.  We are very excited and we have been coming up with ideas we both like.  We have been very involved in planning everything between us.  We designed the invitations ourselves, we chose the venue on the merits we both agreed. We came up with ideas together, we both agreed on the same things.  So why the heck when we go to vendors they completely close him out.  "It's the bride's decision... it's the bride's dream.. the groom just needs to turn up on the day... don't listen to him.. it's your day... etc...."  No it isn't it is OUR day, and it needs to be a reflection of US.

Yes I had dreams when I was growing up, mostly evolving around a big white dress which had magic lights and fairy wings and marrying one of the New Kids on the Block.  also I'm getting married in a Greek Orthodox service which is new to me and I have never dreamt of half of the things involved so I don't really have any idea and feel it's important that himself gets his opinions involved and get OUR mark on the wedding day.

He got really annoyed last week and started making some petty comments about how he may as well just be invisible until the bill arrives, which got to me, especially as I was trying my best to get him involved.  We had quite a row one evening, but I think it was just what we needed to get it all out.  We went on with our visiting with a different air and got it OUR way in the end.

What I want to know is if this is a general problem other BTBs are coming across, and what are the feelings of their GTBs?

@918Lux: We thought that too - and tried to explain to our vendors that all decisions were joint, those that laughed and dismissed us, have now been knocked off the list.  In actual fact as a result, the majority of our vendors are now men or couples, who seem to get our points of view - I found women to be very dismissive of the groom.  The cake-man even said to us he thinks it's great that we are doing it together, because he had no opinion in his wedding and his wife chose colours he hated and flowers he had an allergy to.  I know I am very lucky to have a GTB who wants to make our day as perfect as possible!  He is an absolute gem!