Post # 1
So, I need an opinion. My groom bought a gorgeous charcoal gray suit. It looks great on him, he loves it. At the time of purchase, I just knew we could find some gray suit rentals for the groomsmen. As many of you know, no such luck.
We really don’t want to ask the guys to buy suits. None of them really need a suit for work or other events–they’re just not suit guys. So, we’ve been thinking about putting them in black rental tuxes. The groom really loves the idea that he’ll be different, but I’m afraid the groomsmen are going to look more formal than the groom.
Otherwise, the tuxes would look fine with the bridesmaids dresses. It’s just the whole mixed formality thing.
Post # 3
How formal is your wedding? If it’s not too formal, you could have them wear just shirts and grey dress pants and a tie, or maybe a vest too.
Post # 4
Ooo, yeah…. It’s semiformal–an outdoor garden wedding. There will definitely be some elements that are a little less formal. So, the dress pants with vest would work. I’m more comfortable dressing the GMs down than up. 🙂
I just ran it past the guy and he replied, “No jackets? But we need jackets, hun.” 🙂 Sigh.
Post # 5
I totally agree that just vests and shirts would be fine, or even just shirts and ties. Maybe find some pics of weddings where the guys did the same thing and show them to the guys to convince them it works?
Post # 6
What about the tux rental but instead of the bow ties they could wear ties that either match your colors or are black to match the suits? I know when we went to MW to check out suits, they had different cuts of “tux” type suits and then you could just do without the cumberbunds (and vests since they’ll have the jackets)..
Post # 7
I’m in the same predicament! My finance really hates wearing tuxedos – he’s all about things fitting well, which rental tuxedos never do. So we really want to get him a nicely tailored suit . . . but then, I don’t know what to do with the groomsmen. I don’t think many of them own suits. And I have the same concerns about the groomsmen looking more formal than the groom.
I’ve been looking around at pictures, and here are some options I’ve been thinking about. Would love to hear your thoughts, and if you’ve already decided – what you ended up going with.
1.) Groom wears nice 3-piece suit (pants, jacket, vest & tie) ; groomsmen wear rental tux with no vest, just ties that match wedding colors. From the pictures I’ve looked at, I think a nice fitting suit can look just as nice, if not nicer than tuxes. The main differences between the two are the stripe down the pants, and the vest. If we ditch the vest . . . I really don’t think many people would notice. And if the groom does wear a vest, I think that will help draw the eye to him. The other question is the shoes; I think we’d have to ditch the shiny tux shoes.
2.) Groom wears nice 3-piece suit ; groomsmen wear black pants, black shirts (or white shirts,) and tie. Worried that this may look too casual though?
3.) Try to find a suit rental place for the dudes that don’t own one. Haven’t looked into this yet, but “Jim’s formal wear” looks like it may have suit rentals, and they have retailers all over the country. http://www.jimsformalwear.com/
I think I’m leaning towards #1, but I don’t know.
Post # 8
We finally settled on something very similar to #1 last weekend. We picked up the groom’s tailored suit and it really looks sharp. Seeing it on him put my fears to rest and I think it’s going to hold its own with the rental tuxes. With the more tailored fit, the suit does kind of cry out “Man of the hour.”
So, the groomsmen will be in the rental tuxes, and all of the guys will have a coordinating striped tie that we picked out (the groom’s has more white in it). The shiny shoes will have to go, and I’m undecided about the vests. I’m thinking that we probably won’t use them, but I reserved a lighter gray vest for all of the groomsmen, just in case. I have an image of the reception in my head, once they’ve all taken their jackets off, and I can kind of see the groom in his charcoal vest and the groomsmen in the lighter colored vests and it seems to work, but I don’t think I’ll know for sure until I see one of the guys in his tux.
I think this is going to be okay. The guys will be coordinated (obviously the wedding party) and no one will remember (or be able to tell in pictures) whether there was a stripe down the side of the pants. It helps just a little that the shape of the lapel on groom’s suit is similar to that of the tuxes we chose.
I saw the suits from Jim’s Formalwear. That might be something to look into. We didn’t get too far with it because we’re planning from out-of-state and I just didn’t want to chance it with a retailer that I couldn’t talk to in person (from what I could tell, Jim’s Formalwear distributes to independent retailers). I’m sure it would’ve been fine, but at least at Men’s Wearhouse we knew exactly what we were getting.
We also considered option 2, but it was ultimately more casual than we wanted to go.
Let us know what you decide!
Post # 9
We’ve decided to go with suits. 1 of the guys already owns one, a couple were thinking of buying one anyhow, and the others are going to rent. We also have groomsman in multiple cities, but I just called around and found a few options for them to choose from. The suit rentals we found ($85-99) are much less than the tux rentals at MW ($125-150); and many of them also offer specials to buy suits for really cheap (2 for 200,) so that will be a good option for those looking to buy.
So, I think we’re going to have the groomsman in black suits (2-piece), with black suspenders, white button up shirts, and ties to match the wedding colors (plum/eggplant.) Then the groom will be in a sharp 3-piece charcoal suit with a black tie . . . I like the idea of him being a little different from the other guys.
Where did your fiance get his suit?