Groom/Groomsmen attire to match casual Bride/Bridesmaid

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My guys are wearing these vests which are still formal, but not quite as formal as a suit. They are all a single piece.

Here’s my FI in his with his work t-shirt 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

If your groom wants to wear a suit, he could wear it without the vest and the tie, and open the top button. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@deedeelicious:  I don’t suggest wearing only a vest.  That’s too casual for your dresses, and isn’t a very good look with classic menswear – it’s best left to streetwear/denim/casualwear.  I agree that any kind of formal, or semi-formal, wear will look a little out of place in this context, but not atrociously so.  My suggestion is a suit.  Does your FI own any suits already?  Either navy, or charcoal are better options than black, in my opinion.  If your FI wants black, he should wear black, but I would see if you can convince him to try on some navy and charcoal suits – and you can get charcoal that is extremely dark, and he may like that – as they are both much mre versatile, more classic, more stylish, and generally better on anyone.  That said, he should still pick his suit (as it sounds like he did).  And, if he really wants to wear a Tuxedo, he  should get that.  No reason you can’t make suggestions, and explain your reasons for them, but be sure that you let him make the fnal decision, and that he knows you’ll be happy whatever he decides (withn reason).

http://www.blacktieguide.com is a must read; I wish it was a law that you had t read, and pass an exam, on it before wearing a Tux 😛

All of this aside, the Tuxedos will not look ridiculous, by any stretch.  The tradition in North America is to wear Tuxedos to weddings, regardless of the classic, or traditional factors that would normally affect what one wears, including time of day.  The dresses are full length, but of casual material, and more casual styles.  So, you’re on the cusp of formal and informal (suits being informal).  A dark, solid suit would be most appropriate, in my opinion.  Vest or not is down to personal preference at that point.

I think a jacket and tie are de rigeur, here, as your dresses extend past the knee.

What time is your wedding?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Duncan:  

^^ What he said. 

The black looks far more formal than the dresses do, plus I find the colour a lot less flattering, especially in daylight. It’s also clearly a tuxedo style which puts it at a certain level of formality.

I would be trying to convince your FI to go for a suit, without a vest, to be on the same level of formality. And I would also be trying to persuade him to go with charcoal, especially if he intends to buy, as he’ll get more wear out of it, unless his is planning to go to a lot of funerals.

Even a midnight blue – which will look black in some lights – may be a better option (and would go really well with the colour scheme).

I may even go far as suggesting a suit with no tie and an opened shirt, but I fear Duncan may have a heart attack at that suggesion, so I won’t!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@deedeelicious:  Don’t have them wear ivory shirts. It’s something that no one would ever wear outside a wedding. I don’t have any photos on hand, but I remember this issue coming up in the past, and it definitely doesn’t make an ivory dress look “dirty” or anything like that.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@deedeelicious:  White or ivory shirts will look fine; whatever he prefers.  ANd I would just get a black suit, then.  Honestly, if he likes black suits, then he should wear one.  I think he’ll look better in charcoal (as pretty much everyone does) but I’m not the one wearing the thing.

I wouldn’t do a white shirt and ivory tie.  OR a white tie. the tie vanishes.  And  would not do a black tie wit a black suit; that’s funeral attire.  I would stick to te basics – white or light blue shirt.  And burgundy, or grey tie.  Maybe glen plaid.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Eckle:  hello, can I ask where you got these from? I love them!!

 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Eckle:  I know you posted this 10 months ago but I’m hoping you read this! Where are those vests from? I LOVE THEM. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

JessicaRoxianne:  citysparkle:  Julies already posted the link to The Lees, but I figured I’d share how the vests turned out for my wedding. It was super humid and the guys were really glad they didn’t have to wear full suits. 

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