Groom/Groomsmen, is this appropriate? PICS

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Does this look okay?
    Yes its fine : (34 votes)
    59 %
    Yes but I would not recommend, not my taste -->explain : (15 votes)
    26 %
    No it looks weird, that's not how you pair things together -->explain : (9 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    56 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I like the way that looks! It’s different but elegant 🙂

    Post # 4
    10219 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Suits come in 2 Versions (sometimes 3)

    # 1 = Pants & a Jacket (it is the matching Jacket that by definition makes it a suit) this is known as a 2 piece suit

    # 2 = As a 3 piece suit (traditional) with a matching or slightly contrasting vest.

    # 3 = As a 4 pc suit (rare these days) would come identical to the 2 piece version I’ve described above, and with a 3rd Pair of Pants that often times would match the contrasting vest.

    A Tuxedo by definition is somewhat like a suit but different.

    The same in that it consists of a matching Pants & Jacket.

    Different tho because it traditionally didn’t include a Vest, but rather a Cummerbund was used to cover the waistline (the look that James Bond made famous… see pic below)

    Modern Tuxedos now often forego the Cummerbund and incorpate a Vest, matching or contrasting (often chosen to match the Woman’s Attire, or the Colour Scheme in the case of a Wedding)

    Suits are part of a Menswear category known as Business Attire (generally speaking)

    Tuexdos are part of a Menswear category known as Formal Attire

    Formal Attire for men has very stringent rules on what is and isn’t appropriate for each occasion (or when an occasion is even worthy of formal wear).  It can be a bit of an landmine to navigate… if a Bride wishes to follow this lead, then she is best advised to do a lot of research, reading & homework with her man to make sure he is properly dressed corresponding to the Rules of Etiquette.

    (ie There are different Jackets, Shirts / Collars / Cuffs, Cummerbund vs Vest… as well as different options for Accessories… Ties, Suspenders, Shoes, etc)

    Example, Tuxedos are typically worn after 6 PM (or as close to that hour as possible).  In NA, Tuxedos are often seen as Wedding Attire no matter the hour.  BUT in reality, if one is having a Morning or Afternoon Formal occasion, then the proper formal attire for a Man would be Morning Dress and not a “Black Tie” type of Tuxedo.

    PHOTO – Prince William here is wearing Morning Dress, he has opted for the “Tails” version, but there is also the “Stroller” version of the Jacket that is shorter, and has a traditional cut to it similar to a man’s suit jacket.


    Duncan  a Male Bee we have here on WBee just recently had Morning Dress for his Daytime Wedding, and he looked fabulous

    You can learn more about Formal Attire here:

    Wikipedia – Black Tie =

    Black Tie Guide (Etiquette) =

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 5
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Men can wear a mismatched vest with a 2 piece suit, but it will make the suit look more casual.

    Is he planning on wearing a white shirt?

    Make sure if he does add a vest that it has the same fabric in the front and the back. Vests with a satin backing may fit well under a jacket, but a vest with the same material in the back looks much dressier.

    Try the vest on with the  jacket before you purchase it. Today’s slim cut jackets don’t always allow enough room to add a vest.

    Post # 7
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @elliptical2013:  If he hasn’t already purchased the tie, I would suggest a stripe or other pattern. A solid color tie matchiing the BM dresses can look very “prom-ish”.

    Post # 10
    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Honestly, for a beach wedding I would forgo the vest altogether- unless it’s the vest alone look. I think it looks weird when guys are dressed so formally standing on the beach!

    Post # 11
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @elliptical2013:  Ok -call me confused

    @julies1949:  We have an ivory tie matching my wedding dress


    @julies1949:  He plans to wear a white linen shirt with a royal purple tie to match wedding colors.

    Post # 14
    42166 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @elliptical2013:  I wouldn’t wear an ivory tie with a white shirt. What are your colors other than purple? What are the girls wearing?


    Post # 15
    10840 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @elliptical2013: Yes, though if I were having a beach wedding I wouldn’t have vests (waistcoats) as it’s added weight for them and in the sun and I think more lightweight for a Summer wedding. 

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