Post # 1
What would you do? One of my FI good friend told one of my best friends that if we don’t have an open bar at our wedding, he is going to sneak alcohol in anyway. First off, FI and I will be 20 on the day of our wedding, so we will be underage (so will the friend) and our venue has a strict no alcohol rule bc it is at a state park. What would you do about this situation? I feel it is very rude and disrespectful to the venue, my FI, and mhe’ll
Post # 3
He is rude and disrepectful. Your FI needs to tell him that it is not okay and not acceptable (mainly due to the underage). The last thing you want is cops at your wedding.
Post # 4
Have a trusted friend casually ask after he arrives “hey man, did you bring the booze?” and get back to you with the response. If he brought alcohol, have a family member make him get rid of it immediately or tell him he can celebrate drunkenly from afar.
Post # 5
I would tell him that not only is he underage but he’s sneaking alcohol onto state property and he could get arrested and you guys could get into serious trouble. I would just be firm with him. Tell him that you are having a dry wedding and if he can’t respect that then he shouldn’t stay for the reception. If he sneaks alcohol he will be asked to leave.
Post # 6
The only thing you can really do is have your FI tell him it is illegal and you would really prefer it if he waited until later to drink. Tell him it’s only a few hours. I would just really make it clear you would prefer he wait because of the policy and you do not want to ruin the wedding. Otherwise you can’t really do much because you can’t control how other people behave or their actions. Tell him if you find out he brought alcohol he will be asked to leave.
FWIW, I know it’s illegal but when I was young I snuck alcohol into places and never got caught or in trouble (sporting events, bars, state lake/parks). You would only get in trouble if you’re completely stupid about it. Is he the type of person who is likely to act stupid or like an idiot? In that case, I would put much more effort into trying to dissuade him.
Post # 7
Your FI needs to confront him and tell him this is not acceptable. not only because of the rules, but because you are both underage. You don’t want to be ticketed for underage drinking on your wedding day, do you? He needs to have a serious convo with him and tell him that behavior will not be tolerated.
Post # 8
Have your FI tell him to grow up.
Post # 9
Under those circumstances some of our friends (my brother & bils) would probably say the same thing. But jokingly saying it & doing it our 2 different things. I would have your fi have a talk with him & let him know that it’s not acceptable for him to bring alcohol.