Groom's brother/Best man – I don't trust him

posted 1 year ago in Grooms/men
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Bumble bee

Have you tried talking to your fiance about worry about him stealing? I would just give him no (or very little resopnsibility) and maybe assign someone on your side to keey an eye on him during the wedding. Good luck!

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Newbee

I am hoping in a wedding setting, he would have some respect for his brother not to steal or mess things up too bad but only you know how he is. If your fiance wants him in his wedding party, they probably have a decent relationship.

Thats whay I am hoping but he does sound like a delinquent so I dont know.

 

Im sorry, I dont have advice but good luck and congrats!

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Bumble bee

@PinkAndPearls2013:  I almost think being in the wedding party might be a good thing.  It will keep him distracted and busy.  Having him not be in it will make him mad and not have anything to do…  If he steals, you might not want him angry and without any responsibility around guests purses etc as well as the gift table…

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Bumble bee
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@PinkAndPearls2013:  I would let your FI have his brother in the wedding party and give him very little responsibilities.  IIf you trust another groomsman, I would ask him to keep an eye on him.  I hope he behaves!

My DH asked one of his brothers to be the BM.  Ugh.  I was never a fan of him but after our wedding, I realized I will never warm up to him.  He showed up late to every event; he did not prepare a speech/toast; he also did not want to hold our wedding bands; and, he was standoff-ish because he was a racist/bigot.  No one really knew what went awry, though.  DH’s little brother was able to fill in the gaps for the BM. 

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