(Closed) Groom's Cake – When to Surprise Him?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When should we have the groom's cake?
    At the wedding reception : (11 votes)
    69 %
    At the rehearsal dinner : (5 votes)
    31 %
    At a different time (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    737 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My understanding of the Groom’s Cake is that it’s usually at the wedding, and displayed beside the Bride’s cake (the traditional cake).  This is what I’ve seen done at several weddings and what FH & I will be doing at ours.

    As long as you don’t mind serving it up to guests who prefer the flavor of the Groom’s cake to that of the Bride’s cake, I think it typically makes the most sense to surprise your groom with the cake during the reception. 

    Serving the Groom’s cake at the reception also allows you to have a smaller Bride’s cake (if you choose) – which could save you some money.  When we looked at cakes, it seemed that the price per serving of anything called a “wedding cake” was significantly higher than the price per serving of yummy and pretty cakes that were labeled “birthday cake” or simply, “cake.”

    Post # 5
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    737 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Do you think that he will be studying the number of servings in a 2-tier, 12″ cake vs. those in a 3-tier version?  – I know my FI sure didn’t!

    His input pretty much consisted of “I want it to taste good.” and “I want chocolate!” – and he’s been pretty involved in the wedding planning!  He left me and his mother to talk to the bakery about the details and figure out how much cake we need in order to serve all of our guests.

    I think you can probably manage to surprise your groom – maybe give a heads up to the bakery before the face-to-face meeting that includes him though.

    Post # 6
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    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would do the rehearsal. There is so much food at a wedding, it will probably be much more appreciated then.

    Post # 8
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    415 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m definitely doing mine at the rehearsal dinner – there will be so much going on at the reception that I don’t think it will get the attention it (and he) deserves.

    Post # 10
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    492 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We had ours at the rehearsal dinner, but we also had over half of the wedding attendees present. I didn’t see a need to add to the dessert we were already having, even though that is more traditional.  That way we both got grooms cake and wedding cake.  Also, pur wedding was more formal so it fit better with the informality of the rehearsal.

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