Grooms family excited but not mine!

posted 2 years ago in Family
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  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    awindwobird:  Reverse the situation, and I was in your shoes. FI’s (now DH) family was…pretty removed from the entire thing…by choice.  They never asked us anything, never offered anything, and really seemed less than thrilled for their FIRST (meaning his brothers are not married) marriage!!  On the other hand, my sisters and close Aunts and cousins were very much ‘on board’ the entire time.  They asked questions, gave suggestions, and always participated in a countdown of sorts!

    At first, I was sad that FI’s family ‘did not care’.  At one point I became angry when the ONE time his dad did ask a question about the events, and I responded, he laughed (as in, seemingly laughed at us, not with us).  Then, I moved into the “f*** it” stage.  The stage where I stopped caring what other’s thought, and did what WE (my DH and I) wanted.  Was it expensive?  Yes.  Could we have spent the  money on something more practical – say, a deposit on our next home?  Absolutely.  

    Would I change anything we did that day, or take it back?!  Not on anyone’s life.  

    It was magical, and an awesome start to our married life together.  A memory that we will never forget, nor will any stupid comment that may occur down the road erase (because, much like your dad may make a statement like that, I can totally see his dad saying something stupid one day too :)).

    I suggest you do what you guys want.  You will not be able to change the reactions of those around you, but you can make the choice to not let it get you down, or waiver you and your FI’s (and his families) excitement.  And, for what it is worth, my DH’s family was amazing that DAY.  I could tell in their kind words, huge smiles, some tears and body language, they were really excited and happy for us.  A lot of people only give you a day, but that is all a wedding is, ONE DAY – a hopefully amazing day at that!

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  OUgal0004.
    Post # 3
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    849 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    awindwobird:  I think you need to do what you want. Try taking everything else out of the equationa and imagine what you would want. It sucks not having the support of your family, but it’s your wedding and it would suck to regret not having what you really wanted.

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