- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hi ladies, sorry this is uber long
I always thought planning such a special day would be so much fun. Boy, was i wrong… Our wedding is just two weeks away now and I can’t help but still think about all of the BS that came along with the wedding planning over the past 8 months.
My Fiance and I have been together for almost 10years (since freshman year in HS) we have never really fought that much and have always been a pretty relaxed couple until we decided to tie the knot.
He proposed around Christmas time last year and my family was so excited for us, we were expecting the same reaction from his family and we ended up getting something completely different from them.
Problem #1- We decided to have a destination wedding in Vegas, his family was NOT happy about this..mainly because not everyone in his huge family would be able to attend.
Problem #2- my Future Sister-In-Law (my FI’s brothers fiance) who is also planning her wedding which will be next year, has backed out of being my bridesmaid because she thought she might have a new job by the time of my wedding.. Which was fine with me, but she ended up telling everyone that I “unbridesmaided” her and treated her horribly about it.. Totally not true. There has been so many things that this girl has done that I have overlooked just to not start any more drama with her (for example: at my dress shopping session she constantly talked about her wedding to my entire family and showed off her proposal video about 10 times (which I didn’t care at the time because I was in wedding dress la la land) and to top it off her and my Future Mother-In-Law were picking out wedding dresses for her to try in at my appointment. However, I didn’t say anything because I know that she is just excited… I just wish she had the same respect for me as I did for her at her first dress appointment where I gave her my full attention and didn’t even mention abit about my own wedding.
Problem #3- FMILzilla… I have know my FI’s mom for a long time now.. And we have never had a single problem until we got engaged… Its like she has been “faking” liking me for the past 10 years and now all of the things that she hates about me are starting to come out. She constantly complained about every choice we made that had to do with wedding because she wasn’t involved in making it… She has teamed up with my Future Sister-In-Law (they are currently planning my FSIL’s wedding together) and they have pretty much morphed into one giant ball of hatred towards myself. About two months ago I found an online message board that my FI’s mom Is a member on.. There was a entire thread dedicated to me, it was called bridezilla haha. There was at least 200 posts from her saying horrible things about me and my family.. She also posted the link to our wedding website which included the event locations and times and said “if anyone is is Vegas during the wedding you can crash it” she also mentioned things about how she doesn’t think our marriage will last and that she prays we don’t have children so she won’t have to go through a custody battle. I haven’t been that hurt by someone’s words in awhile, I had no idea she really felt this way about me. I’m not sure how our relationship can ever Recover from this, and honestly.. I don’t want much to do with her at this point. I hate being the person that has driven a wedge between my Fiance and his mom but he really hates the way she has been acting lately. I’m so worried about seeing her at the wedding… I dont even want to speak to her.. And i hate that I feel this way. I haven’t spoken to her in almost 4 months and before we quit speaking I tried talking to her…even gave her a mother of the groom gift and she didn’t even say thank you for it.
If she is acting like this now….how will she act when we have kids?? How am I supposed to get along with someone who clearly despises me?
I know it all sounds bitchy.. But they are driving me crazy during a time that I just want to celebrate with my family and be around the people who truly care. How can I get over this…? Does all of this BS drama end after the wedding? I really really hope so. I don’t like feeling so much hatred towards someone that I will have to deal with for the rest of my life, so I guess my dilemma is, how do I handle being hated by my future inlaws?
There is much much more to the story but this is already too long… If you have made it this far in the post thank you for taking the time to read my venting haha.