Grooms family not involved at all…what can we do in place of?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Elope. Move on with your life. Simplify and refocus on what a wedding is about. I had to do that. Good luck. 

Post # 3
1836 posts
Buzzing bee

Does he want a “mother – son” dance or are you just wanting to keep things even.  Father daughter dance then requires Mother son dance?

What does his cousin think about loaning his mom to be “mother of the groom”?


Post # 5
1733 posts
Bumble bee

Unless he’s close to his Aunt and wants to do a spotlight dance with her because of their close relationship I would just skip it, do your Father/Daughter dance if you want to and if it doesn’t bother fiance.  I wouldn’t put his aunt and uncle on the program unless they are hosting or joint hosting.  Where would they be on the program otherwise? 

Post # 6
1733 posts
Bumble bee

BTW – I think you are over-thinking this because you feel bad your fiance’s parents aren’t involved.  A lot of people’s parents aren’t all that involved in their wedding even if their relationship isn’t so bad.  I think any input his parents might have had, that input will end up coming naturally from other people you and your fiance are close to, maybe just your family, maybe friends, maybe fiance’s more distant family if he has a relationship to them. 

Post # 7
7514 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would either skip the dances all together, or do one with your dad but have the DJ announce part way through the song that everyone is invited onto the dance floor.

Post # 8
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Stillwell House

not necessary to name parents on the invites either.  that is usually indicative of who is “hosting” or paying for the wedding. 

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