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I really like the look of chucks/vans with nice suits! If girls can have fun with their wedding shoes why can't the guys?
I think they are great and it doesn't matter what other people think.
Lots of grooms and groomsmen are wearing chucks. It does look better though if they all wear them, otherwise the groom would stand out.
this bride even got in on the action!
Well since you asked---with a suit I think they look sloppy, gimmicky and like the person is trying to hard. But, perhaps gimmicky and fun is a look he is going for. I do not judge. These are legitimate aims for how someone wants to present himself. If it fits the occassion, who gives a sh*t?
I only object to the concept that dress shoes somehow look out of place on a grown-up. There is no way dress shoes can look out of place on a man. What does he wear to, say, funerals or job interviews? That's rhetorical. I'm just sayin'.
It's a cute idea, but it's not my fav. I think that dress shoes would make it look more formal. I just think that they stick out too much.
The bestman at my daughter's wedding is wearing black patten leather ones with aqua shoe laces to match his vest. I think it's fun and he is always the life of the party. 
Verno--I certainly didn't mean that dress shoes look out of place on all guys, just that they look weird on my FI. He's a mechanic, so no dressing up for job interviews. For weddings and other dressy occasions, he usually wears a pair of Doc Marten wing tips like these (which looked worse with his suit than the chucks).
I get the trying too hard comment, and I sort of hate that they have become the new "in" thing because FI has been wearing chucks since he was a kid, on him they just sorta look natural (and trust me, there is nothing hip or trendy about FI). The groomsman won't be wearing chucks, because they don't ever wear them, and I want people wearing what they are comfortable in (plus I'm not paying for shoes they'll never wear again).
The wedding and reception are all outside, if that makes a difference. Its still sort of formal, but in a more casual setting. My brother is apparently wearing flip flops.
I know they aren't the ideal shoe, but can he get away with them? Or will people just be hating the shoes and not notice how nice everything else looks?
To me they stand out so much they take away from him as a whole. Instead of " look how nice the groom looks", it is "look at the groom's shoes." The items are fine separately but together they stand out-like wearing wing tips with shorts.
I second cakegal - they stand out too much to the point were they take away from the whole look. People will be paying too much attention to the shoes and not enough to your FI.
If he wants to break them out for the reception, that's another thing and I'd say that's fine. But not for the ceremony.
Also - like Verno Inferno - I don't buy what you say about your FI looking out of place in dress shoes. He may never wear them so you may not be used to the look but I promise you - no grown man looks out of place in dress shoes at the proper occasion (like a wedding), not matter what is profession/personality/etc.
Personally I think there's lots of different shoe options. Would I like my groom to wear Chucks? No. And he doesn't wear dress shoes either. There's lots of other shoes out there that can pass for smart black shoes that don't have to be formal. But that's just IMO. I've seen beautiful weddings with them and I've seen not so beautiful ones. All in the eye of the beholder and all that.
If the brother is wearing flip flops, he may look dressed up in chucks!
If you do decide against the chucks, I can understand him not wanting to spend money on a pair of shoes he will never wear again.
Could he borrow a pair from a close friend or family member? Or buy a pair at a thrift or consignment shop? Or buy a cheap pair at Target or K Mart?
Can he get away with them? Or will people just be hating the shoes and not notice how nice everything else looks?
What you wear communicates something about you, and on a certain level it also communicates what you feel about the occassion and the people around you. For the people who know your fiance, they're going to probably love it and will understand what he's communicating with the shoe choice. You and his family know him and understand why it's going to be a quirky nod to his fun, dressed-down lifestyle. For people at the wedding who don't know him well, the reaction will run the gamut: some will think it's awesome, some will think it's weird and wonder who the heck nonimouse12 is marrying and why didn't he bother to put on dress shoes for his own wedding.
Honestly, most people won't care one way or the other. They came for the beer.
So yes, he can get away with them. And yes, some people will be hating the shoes. But that's sort of the required response when someone breaks the rules a bit, right? If everyone thought it looked great then it would cease to be "different" or edgy. This isn't one of those things were you'll get everyone on board.
I love the idea of the chucks! they are so cute and I have seen way way way worse! A few years ago my fiances younger brother got married and he made all of the groomsmen wear the white $9.99 velcro shoes that you can only get at wal-mart because those were what the groom wore everyday and he didn't want to have wear anything different on his wedding day. Not to mention that his brother spray painted his own pair of velcros for the wedding lilac to match to wedding colors. It probably would have been a little bit better if it was a casual wedding, but this wedding was at a venue that was about $10,000 for 3 hours!!!!!
I love, love, love chucks and I have converted my FI to them. Would he wear them to our wedding though? It depends but I have to agree that pair of chucks really stands out with his suit. I saw that you posted a picture of a "dress shoe" if that is the one you guys tried I can see why it looked a little awkward with the suit. My FI is a tire installer, so no dress shoes for interviews but we have found shoes he hasn't looked out of place in.
Here is some dress shoe inspiration:http://di1.shopping.com/images1/pi/4f/29/a2/31186254-300x300-0-0_Men_s_Serpant_Dress_Shoes_by_Steve_Madden.jpghttp://www.aldoshoes.com/ca-eng/sale/men/shoes/79190643-cluff/11http://www.aldoshoes.com/ca-eng/sale/men/shoes/77856456-willehad/18
Now, if you guys really, really want chucks here is my suggestion. Either go to your local converse shop/dealer and buy a pair of all black chucks, including laces and cap like these: http://dirodi.eu/shopt/images/imgdw/ConverseChuckTaylorAllStarHiM3310BlackMono.JPG
If you & your guy like them....then go for it!! I don't buy into the whole "what other's think" stuff too much. Your wedding is about you & your man. If you two love the chucks on him...then go with the chucks.
I'm probably partial, as I've never seen my FH in anything but chucks! He's definitely sporting a new pair for the wedding!
i love the chucks! im all about being comfortable and not following whats expected..
Verno Inferno---you've nailed it perfectly! I don't want people to think that he's trendy or can't dress up. People who know him will know that its just him, but what about everyone else?
Jedcaj---white velcro sneakers? oh my! at least they were cheap.
Thanks to everyone for the feedback!
Apparently my brothers are really distressed about the chucks--I don't get why they care, but it makes me worry about my mother freaking out and I don't want to deal with that the morning of my wedding! I prefer the chucks, but not enough to start a battle over them.
So, I found a pair of dress shoes that fit for $18 at Target. We don't hate them, which is good enough for me. If people freak out about the shoes, he'll wear the dress shoes for just the ceremony (and stick with chucks for the pre-ceremony pics and the reception), and if no one cares, he'll wear chucks all day and we'll return the stupid dress shoes. So, I think we have all the bases covered. Thanks all!
Heck yeah! If you guys love it, I say go for it! It's about YOU two and tradition, not just tradition. YEAY! Congrats on a handsome groom from the cute smile down! I can't see the rest of him, but I'm sure its equally cute ;)
sweetpea--Thanks :) I think you can tell even from that much of his face that he was not excited to be trying on the suit for me again.
I still say that" you should do it. If FI does not wear other "dressy" shoes, why make him on your wedding? He will probably feel uncomfortable wearing the shoes which people will notice the comfortableness and then comment on that and blah blah blah.
Have him wear the chucks if that's what he likes. And if someone comments negatively- then you tell them that they can buy the shoes that he will never wear again. But its YOUR (meaning you & him) wedding, do what YOU want and not what other people expect.
I don't buy the argument of your FI never wearing dress shoes so therefore he looks weird in them. let me ask you, how often do you wear a long formal gown? i bet rarely but you're still wearing one for the wedding and i bet it won't look out of place on you at all. i think dressing up is a way to show respect and reverence to the occasion.
so in my personal opinion, while chucks are fun and cute for photos, I wouldn't want my FI wearing them for the actual wedding/reception, (and luckily he is on the same page).
if the wedding is super formal i say no chucks
but if its not, if its just regular? then yeah go for it! the day is for the two of you and you need to do what makes you comfortable! and everyone else can just shush. :)
i like that look!
I got Converse for the all guys in our wedding party. FI and I have both been wearing them our entire lives.
FI lives in work boots and adidas shoes. So he's ordering custom adidas. They're similar to Chucks, but made by adidas. It's very him.
If your FI lives in his chucks I think it's a good way to personalize the day toward him a little. So often it seems that weddings are personalized a little heavy on the bride.
You can get Chucks without the white toes! Loverboy has some that are all black - soles, laces, toes, everything. You can also design your own on the Converse website, so they're exactly what you want.
My fi and his gm wear chucks all the time anyway and we thought it would be a fun thing to add to our wedding to personalize it a bit! and we are actually buying new chucks for his gm as thier gm gift so they can have them for our wedding day and to keep after!
One of my lovely bridesmaids who just got married this past Fall gave me a little piece of advice that I really love:
"It's impossible to make everyone happy. There will always be someone who has something to say or some opinion that you don't share. It's your day! You might as well just make yourselves happy and don't worry about what others think. After all, your wedding is about you and him!"
If that is what makes you and him happy then GO FOR IT! I love the look. And I think maybe the bros might have to suck it up and do it. After it's all said and done, they might end up liking them!
Having said ALL of that, (which was a mouthful, that's me!) our groomsmen and FI are wearing TOMS at our wedding, the lace up style, not the slip on. Yes, I know they look like slippers, but we thought it just fit well with our overall theme/ venue and gives our wedding uniqueness and character... and who doesn't love a little creativity and character in life? SPICE IT UP and do what you want! It's your day!!
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FI lives in boots or converse, he never wears dress shoes and they look really out of place on him (we tried!). So, we decided on chucks. His family thinks its cute, but my brothers hate the white toes. I like them on him, but do worry that some people (my parents friends) will think he didn't bother to dress up for his own wedding.
So, what do you all think? Suit is charcoal grey, chucks are slate blue and brand new.