Post # 1
I am getting married in March 2015. I am in the beginning stages of wedding planning and I need some advice. My groom and I are working on picking venues and reception sites. My fiancé thinks for some reason that the reception is only in hour. I started to talk to him and he just got more and more mad as he vented. He is afraid people will ask him why he isn’t dancing or why he is socializing with other people instead of everyone. I told him that no one cares if he doesn’t dance or isn’t socializing with everyone. He is scared people will harass him the whole time. I don’t know what to tell him to make him feel better. Any advice is helpful. I told him that it is our wedding and we can do what he Wants. If he doesn’t want to dance ok. If he says hello to people and then goes hang out friends it won’t matter. I don’t want him to be miserable but I don’t want him to think other people will harass him either. No one in our families is like that.
Post # 3
@Amt5121: Welcome to the Hive, first of all! Does he have social anxiety? For instance is he typically like this with birthday parties or other social gatherings?
You said somethiong interesting which is:
I told him that it is our wedding and we can do what he Wants.
And yet he isn’t really getting a say in how long the reception is…if he has social anxiety or doesn’t like crowds you should really be trying to meet him in the middle somewhere. If you want a reception and he doesn’t, then you need to compromise. I think an hour is a bit short, but perhaps you can meet in the middle at, say, 2 1/2 hours. It truly is his wedding too, and while I think his reasonings won’t happen (ie being asked why he isn’t dancing or socializing) you still need to take his feelings into consideration and work on meeting him in the middle.
Honestly, many grooms don’t dance at their own reception, and the bride and groom are sometimes so busy they don’t get to dance. Another thing is most people will come up to YOU and socialize, not expecting the groom or bride to come up to them. He may not understand that either.
Post # 4
Most of the venues I have found says it has to be a minimum of 4 hours. Trust me if I could do a two hour reception I would Do that option. he does have social anxiety pretty bad but once he gets over the initial 5 minutes he is fine especially if there are friends and people he is comfortable with. I am trying to look into other options which would make him comfortable. Again I don’t expect him to dance or be mr. Social butterfly.
Post # 5
Maybe you could find a venue to host both the ceremony & reception? That way you aren’t stuck with paying lots of money for a short reception.
Are you having dinner & dancing? If so, you’ll need much more than an hour!
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
My husband spent almost the entire 4.5 hours of our reception with friends. We wandered around a bit and said hi to everyone while they were eating, then he hung out with his friends. I ran around and danced. To my knowledge, no one even noticed.