Groom's issue with reception.

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Amt5121:  Welcome to the Hive, first of all! Does he have social anxiety? For instance is he typically like this with birthday parties or other social gatherings?

You said somethiong interesting which is:

I told him that it is our wedding and we can do what he Wants.


And yet he isn’t really getting a say in how long the reception is…if he has social anxiety or doesn’t like crowds you should really be trying to meet him in the middle somewhere. If you want a reception and he doesn’t, then you need to compromise. I think an hour is a bit short, but perhaps you can meet in the middle at, say, 2 1/2 hours. It truly is his wedding too, and while I think his reasonings won’t happen (ie being asked why he isn’t dancing or socializing) you still need to take his feelings into consideration and work on meeting him in the middle.

Honestly, many grooms don’t dance at their own reception, and the bride and groom are sometimes so busy they don’t get to dance. Another thing is most people will come up to YOU and socialize, not expecting the groom or bride to come up to them. He may not understand that either.

Good luck!

Post # 5
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Maybe you could find a venue to host both the ceremony & reception? That way you aren’t stuck with paying lots of money for a short reception.

Are you having dinner & dancing? If so, you’ll need much more than an hour!

Post # 6
812 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

My husband spent almost the entire 4.5 hours of our reception with friends. We wandered around a bit and said hi to everyone while they were eating, then he hung out with his friends. I ran around and danced. To my knowledge, no one even noticed.

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