Post # 1
So, we are having a small (less than 40 person) beach wedding next fall in Florida. I haven’t picked a dress yet, but it will definitely be beach-appropriate and not too poofy/fancy/satiny/etc haha.
My bridesmaids are all doing dresses of their choosing in a shade of blue (they’re coordinating amongst themselves).
Fiance wants his groomsmen in khakis and a white button up (possibly light blue button ups though) with the sleeves rolled up.
BUT, fiance wants to wear the same thing as his groomsmen! I just cannot seem to convince him that it would look really nice for him to maybe wear a tie, or vest, or nicer shirt for the ceremony and then he can take off the vest/tie/whatever for the reception. He insists it’ll be too hot to consider a vest or tie and he wants to be comfortable on his wedding day, which I can’t really argue with.
But how do I convince him to please, please, please do something a TINY bit nicer for the ceremony? I’m not asking for a tux or suit or even a jacket here, so I feel like I’m being extremely reasonable…but he gets set on things and that’s that.
I was thinking about making him a Nordstrom Groom’s Styling appointment sometime in the next few months to get him into some different things and letting him see how different things feel and look on him…thoughts?
Post # 3
@ebarnes0: I hardly think a tie or a vest would be that unbearable… Boys will be boys. Ways to make him stand out:
– Different bouttonniere as the others
– A hat
– A slightly different shirt than the others (diff. color or details – maybe he would wear an all white shirt to match his bride?)
– Bow tie instead of tie?
(I agree with you though about the vest 😉
Post # 4
@ebarnes0: What if all the GMs wear light blue and he wears white? Then he’ll stand out!
Post # 5
@ebarnes0: If he wears linen rather than cotton, he will still be cool enough to wear a vest or even a jacket!
Quite a few Bees have ordered from http://www.studiosuits.com so you will be able to find reviews here.
You can get a vest and pants for $89 in the color of your choice.
Post # 6
Don’t even get me STARTED on how amazing the groom in a vest looks in all those photos! I think that linen is an awesome option but he’s never worn it before, so he has no idea how light it is.
He’s open to doing a different color shirt than the guys, at least.
I just REALLY do not want to turn into that bride that’s telling everyone what to wear.
Post # 7
I think the best look for your situation would be for him to wear a linen suit with an open collar. Something like this or this. (I would prefer something less structured, though.) Ties without a jacket scream fast food manager/cell phone salesman/IT guy, and I’m not a fan of the vest-only look. I find it kitschy.
Post # 8
@ebarnes0: I agree with hubby. I think a vest would be hot! Look i think even a different colour buttonniere would be enough to separate him from the other groomsman.
We had a beach wedding and my hubby wore a silver tie where as groomsman wore a pink tie. Also my hubby wore ralph lauren and groomsman wore same colours in a department store version.
Post # 9
My fiance would rather be in shorts and a teeshirt, but he will be wearing a full tux. When my fiance does dress up, he looks soooo handsome and sexy, and I make sure to tell him that! I keep telling him how excited I am to see him in a tux (I never have) and how amazing he will look, and he is excited to impress me just like we all want to impress our fiances with our dress. Maybe tell him your dress is more formal and you won’t go very well together without at least a tie.
Post # 10
We’re getting married in August and it most likely will be quite hot. To avoid melting groomsmen we’re getting them these vests (modeled by Fiance in his work t-shirt and gym shorts :P) and Fiance is going to have a suit coat over his for the ceremony only. The vests really aren’t that thick and shoudn’t be too warm.
Post # 11
@Eckle: This is TOTALLY up my FI’s alley – where did you get this vest from? He would absolutely love it, I know it! He’s so picky…and I especially love the tshirt under it haha!!
Post # 12
@ebarnes0: It took me forever to track down the random pintrest pin, but it is made by Thelees in Korea. You can also order it off of Amazon, but I found the shipping was better direct from the designer. They speak good English and have great customer service.
Post # 13
@Eckle: Thanks I will check it out!
Post # 14
I have to admit I’m a total sucker for a guy in a vest and that’s what we did. But I can respect your guy’s choice not to want a tie or vest. So I also vote to put the groomsmen in blue shirts and groom in a white shirt. My husband had his identical twin as his best man, so we had to make sure you could tell them apart, so we had our groomsmen in yellow and my husband in white – it turned out great!