Post # 1
Hey bees! We are having a (hopefully) small wedding, and we have run into a little issue with the best man/groomsmen situation. I have already asked ony of my best friends to be maid of honor, and I have already asked FI’s sister to be a bridesmaid. That is it for my bridal party, just those two girls. FI does not have a lot of close guy friends and did not want to have groomsmen, so he was planning to just have a best man (his cousin, J). He has not yet asked his cousin. He is still not very close to his cousin, and they have not kept in touch over the years, but J is the only male option for the role (can’t pick an uncle with the risk of hurting feelings and can’t ask his dad because FFIL has not been supportive of our engagement). FI is very uncomfortable about asking J, and I totally understand. He just feels awkward about it (and guilty since they’re not close), and he doesn’t like the concept of needing a best man in the first place (neither of us are huge fans of some of the very traditional wedding aspects).
This is what I was wondering: could FI’s sister (my bridesmaid) stand on his side as his witness and best “man”? I thought it would add a nice family touch and also keep FI from stressing out over needing to ask J. His sister would still be wearing the same dress and be involved in all bridesmaid stuff. Literally all I’m thinking of doing is changing where she stands during the ceremony, and in the wedding program, list her as a bridesmaid, sister of the groom, and best “man”.
Have any of you done or seen this? Would you happen to have pictures of your wedding party? Trying to visualize it and show Mom that it wouldn’t look weird.
Post # 2
Absolutely! I see no reason why she can’t stand next to her brother as “Best Woman”. I think its great!
Post # 3
Yep! Totally ok! My friend was actually the Man of Honor in his sister’s wedding.
Post # 4
I think that’s great! For our wedding party, we had three women in dresses and one man on my side, and two men, one woman in a suit, and one woman in a dress on his side, and it was perfect, because it was all people we really care about.
And maybe instead of holding a bouquet his best woman can wear a corsage.
Post # 5
Absolutely, I would go with Best Lady.
I’m having a Man of Honor who is a family member and will have a man on my side in my small bridal party of 2.
Post # 6
My little bro asked me to be his “Best Woman” (even though we have an older brother too). I was touched, and totally happy to fill the role. They were married in Jamaica, and when the officiant asked the witnesses to come forward, I went up, along with SIL’s sister (Maid of Honour). It was then that the officiant said they needed one male and one female witness. No one indicated this to my bro and SIL throughout the whole planning process… so I asked my big bro to go up instead. I still tell everyone I was the ring-bearer though. lol.
Post # 7
MKWeddingBee: one of my close gfs actually did this. the groom and his sister were sooo close. so he had her and 1 guy, she wore a black gown and the guys had black tuxes. then she had 2 bridesmaids (and they wore champagne colored gowns i think).
Post # 9
Of course you can do that.
Post # 10
I think it is a terrific idea!
Post # 11
Why not? I’ve seen pictures, and I think it’s really sweet! I also knew a woman who had her male cousin as a “bridesman”.
Post # 12
I have the exact same situation. I have one sister and my fiance has two sisters, they are all going to be bridesmaids and get the hair, makeup done etc together, they are wearing the same dress. And then when they walk down the aisle my fiances sisters will stand on his side and my sister on my side. Just so my fiance isnt out numbered at the bridal table two of our sisters have BFs that are going to sit at the end of the bridal table.
Post # 13
Totally cool! I was a grooms woman in one of my guy friend’s wedding. One suggestion- the way we did it was to have me in a black dress like the groom was in a black suit rather than me being in the same purple dress as the bridesmaids. I think it looked a lot more normal and fancy that way. Think about it!
Post # 14
MKWeddingBee: my brother’s best man was a close family friend who is a woman. She was a great best “person.”
Post # 15
MKWeddingBee: Totally fine! And I think that’s a great idea! Would certainly be more meaningful for everyone. I’m having a Gentleman of Honor standing next to me on my big day. It’s about who supports and loves you.