Post # 1
What kind of wedding planning tasks do the men out there like to do?
My FI is really excited about the honeymoon and the music. And today, he excitedly (and surprisingly) suggested we take dancing lessons–intro to ballroom!
What about your FI? Guys, what do you like about wedding planning?
Post # 3
I think there are a bunch of things the guys can participate in. First and foremost is the cake tasting and the food tasting for the reception. Can’t leave that part out. There is also the photographer, videographer, and dj/band/music selection. As far as clothing, some guys even take pride in choosing which tux/suit to what shoes or cumberbun to wear right down to the cuff links.
Back to the food, I’m also planning on arranging to have some food brought in while the groomsmen are waiting to have their pictures taken during the time the bride is getting her pictures done with the photographer. There is a chance we might have two photographers to avoid the wait and better utilize the time, but in case thats not in the budget, I figure thats a good plan. Food and drinks is key.
Some of us also like to help with the registry, wedding band selection and honeymoon planning. The honemoon planning is a task all by itself unless we’re just completely confident with the travel agent. I used to a travel agent for our trip to mexico for our proposal but that turned out to be a complete mess. Not all travel agents are created equal and not all know what they are doing. its always better to do your own homework in what you want to do, especially since the travel agent alot of times has no idea what foods you guys enjoy together, allergies, and what exactly will be ‘your speed’.
My fiancee and I are also taking waltz lessons. We are leaning towards maybe doing the foxtrot now after going through some ideas for our first dance.
Post # 4
My fiance has been pretty involved in the planning process. The only things he didn’t participate in were picking my dress, BM dresses and flowers. He had really strong opinions about food, tuxes (I asked him to pick those entirely), photography and locations.
That’s so cute that your fiance wanted to do dance lessons. I think I’d have to force mine to do that!
Post # 5
My FI is planning the honeymoon (it’ll be a surprise to me), designing our invitations, and he also suggested we take dancing lessons and do a choreographed dance. FI is helping decide on decorations and flowers too.
Post # 6
my fi is helping in almost everyway. dress, flowers, invitations, food, decorations, where and when. i sometimes think i am the luckiest ever because he is so willing to help.
Post # 7
My FI told me on Sunday that he’d like to be in charge of the official paperwork – the marriage license, name change stuff, passports, etc. Which is great for me b/c I get bored with those types of things.
Post # 8
My husband took control of the alcohol, food (both cocktail hour and reception) and the cake! He also had a lot to say about the ceremony music. I think it is easiest to find out what they are really interested in and let them take control of it from there…
Post # 9
My FI really enjoyed the cake tasting and design as well as the menu decisions. He’s also taken charge of the honeymoon planning. He’s had interest in other aspects of the planning as well, but these were what he really enjoyed. Music is another thing that he’s had a lot to say about, good things of course!
Post # 10
Wow! How did you all get your FI’s so involved? Getting Mr. Snowflake to do anything wedding-related is taking a lot of sweet-talking and bribes! I told him he’s absolutely in charge of the tuxes, and I have a few "manly" tasks for him down the road (I want white trees at my wedding, so I’m making him go tromping around in the woods to get me some good ones), but other than that… tell me, what’s the secret?
Post # 11
My FI will make some phone calls when I tell who to call. I’m pretty shy, not sure why, when it comes to making the first contact. He’s also been strangely interested in favors. He wants to give all the guests something nice.
Post # 12
FI provides input to pretty much everything (but I present the options to him). He is in charge of honeymoon, music, and grooms’ attire. I try to delegate stuff to him all the time, but I am a bit of a control freak so end up doing it myself : )