- 6 years ago
I need some advice on whether or not someone should be included as a groomsman. My fiance wanted to ask his sister’s husband to be a groomsman. Since we have been engaged, fiance’s sister and husband are having marital problems and are currently separated. One day they are together and the next they are not. Supposedly they are trying to work things out. Fiance and I cannot agree on what the best solution to this problem is. I say to have “Joe” as an usher that way if they are together he has a part in the wedding and if they are not together, then it is no big deal that we have lost one usher. Fiance wants to go ahead with him being a groomsman and if they split for good, just ask someone else to step in. I have major issues with that as I find it an insult to ask someone to replace another person when they were not a first choice. Plus, who knows when they will make a decision about being together. We cannot sit around and wait for them to figure things out. I am being too rigid about this? Any advice is greatly appreicated.