(Closed) Groomsman's Girffriend Getting Home from Semester Abroad Day Before Wedding

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see why it would be a big deal if she were to hang with the guys during pictures, as long as it’s ok with your groom. However, I also don’t think that she should be added to the limo. That’s just not fair for the other members of your BP. I would just have your FI casually talk to his GM about what his plans are for the day of.

Post # 4
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1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MeganRae1230:  I think you kind of are. why don’t you wait and see if anything needs to be said instead of potentially damaging a friendship. Does your FI care that much?

Post # 5
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6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I don’t think it would be a big deal. The guys don’t do very much anyway except pose for the pictures, why not have her there?

So yeah, I think you should just accomodate and/or let the GM make his own decisions. I’m sure he’s missed her and vice versa, but they are still capable of being decent I’m sure! Unless you know something I don’t about them, of course.

My brother (who was a GM) had his date there all day (including getting ready) and she and my little sister hung out a lot, it wasn’t a big deal. Also, my MOH was leaving for her study abroad trip the night of my wedding (freak scheduling accident, she found out two months before the wedding), so I offered for her SO to hang around also. BM 2’s SO was also hanging around. It was no big deal because I didn’t notice or care and nothing “bad” happened.

Post # 6
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578 posts
Busy bee

No, the SOs aren’t coming early before the wedding to be there for pictures. SOs can come to the rehearsal dinner, but the morning of the wedding is just the bridal party. I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to have her drive herself. She will be with him the night before and for the reception- i think that is all that should be expected 🙂 Ask your FI to talk to him about what the plans are so he knows and can tell his GF

Post # 8
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778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think you should let your FI take the lead on this and not stress about it too much. This is one of his very dearest friends, and the potential for hurt feelings in this situation is high. Besides, he’s been missing his sweetheart all this time–try to be gracious and cut him some slack! Don’t let such a joyous occasion for you become an excuse for separating other young couples in love or create a wedge between your FI and his friend. And you know, if he does spend all day mooning about with his GF, your FI can give him endless grief about it at their wedding…

Post # 9
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660 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Our groomsmen’s wife hung out with the girls during our wedding.  Not a big deal.  She was so helpful, getting us food, holding our stuff.  I wouldn’t worry about it.  I’m sure he’ll be happy to see his gf but also have a great time being a gm for your fi.  No need to stress.  Either way, what’s one more person in the limo.  

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