Post # 1
Are the SOs of your bridal party arriving to your wedding when the other guests arrive or are they going to be there before hand hanging around during pictures, etc.? We have a pretty small bridal party (3 bridesmaids – our sisters and 2 groomsmen) and one of the groomsmen has a GF who has been studying abroad this semester. She was orginally going to still be gone for our wedding, but I found out last night that she changed her flight and will now be coming home the night before our wedding. The GM is skipping the RD to go to the airport to pick her up. I don’t know her very well and I’m worried that the groomsman will be wrapped up in his GF coming home and try to have her hang out all day. I’m having visions of them making out in a corner while my FI and the best man try to relax and have fun while they are getting ready. Is it unreasonable for my FI to say something to the GM about having his GF arrive at the time the other wedding guests will be arriving?
Also, we have a limo that is going to be taking us and the bridal party from the church to the reception venue. Do I now have to make room for his GF in the limo? It seems like it would be fine for her to drive there herself and then they will have a car to get home at the end of the night.
I’m glad that she will now get to come to the wedding and I know that they will be excited to see each other after being apart for a few months, but I still want the GM to be there for my FI throughout the day.
If I’m being a bridezilla, feel free to tell me. Haha.
Post # 3
I don’t see why it would be a big deal if she were to hang with the guys during pictures, as long as it’s ok with your groom. However, I also don’t think that she should be added to the limo. That’s just not fair for the other members of your BP. I would just have your FI casually talk to his GM about what his plans are for the day of.
Post # 4
@MeganRae1230: I think you kind of are. why don’t you wait and see if anything needs to be said instead of potentially damaging a friendship. Does your FI care that much?
Post # 5
I don’t think it would be a big deal. The guys don’t do very much anyway except pose for the pictures, why not have her there?
So yeah, I think you should just accomodate and/or let the GM make his own decisions. I’m sure he’s missed her and vice versa, but they are still capable of being decent I’m sure! Unless you know something I don’t about them, of course.
My brother (who was a GM) had his date there all day (including getting ready) and she and my little sister hung out a lot, it wasn’t a big deal. Also, my MOH was leaving for her study abroad trip the night of my wedding (freak scheduling accident, she found out two months before the wedding), so I offered for her SO to hang around also. BM 2’s SO was also hanging around. It was no big deal because I didn’t notice or care and nothing “bad” happened.
Post # 6
No, the SOs aren’t coming early before the wedding to be there for pictures. SOs can come to the rehearsal dinner, but the morning of the wedding is just the bridal party. I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to have her drive herself. She will be with him the night before and for the reception- i think that is all that should be expected 🙂 Ask your FI to talk to him about what the plans are so he knows and can tell his GF
Post # 7
Thanks for your opinions. I’ll try to relax. I’m sure it would be fine if she’s around before the ceremony.
Post # 8
I think you should let your FI take the lead on this and not stress about it too much. This is one of his very dearest friends, and the potential for hurt feelings in this situation is high. Besides, he’s been missing his sweetheart all this time–try to be gracious and cut him some slack! Don’t let such a joyous occasion for you become an excuse for separating other young couples in love or create a wedge between your FI and his friend. And you know, if he does spend all day mooning about with his GF, your FI can give him endless grief about it at their wedding…
Post # 9
Our groomsmen’s wife hung out with the girls during our wedding. Not a big deal. She was so helpful, getting us food, holding our stuff. I wouldn’t worry about it. I’m sure he’ll be happy to see his gf but also have a great time being a gm for your fi. No need to stress. Either way, what’s one more person in the limo.