Post # 1
Okay, so the bridesmaids and my mother will be getting ready with me at the venue as well as the groom. They have a bridal suite and a room for the groom too. However the groomsmen are still expected to arrive early for pictures etc. Guests are not allowed at the venue until a specific time except for the bridal party.
Would the spouses who are not part of the bridal party should be exempted and get ready/ arrive early at the Venue. I personally prefer for them not to because I dont want to have so many people when everything is not ready yet. But I dont know if I am being inconsiderate, but it does say in the function sheet that guests to arrive no earlier than a specific time.
How does this normally work?
Post # 3
If they are from Out of Town i would let them come. If they live a few minutes from the venue then there is no reason for them to be there early. They probably don’t want to be there early either. Maybe some of the guys can carpool over and their wives can come over later so there’s not so many people/cars there.
Post # 4
I have the exact same setup for getting ready. I hadn’t thought about this. I guess I will leave it up to the spouses. If they want to get ready and come early to watch us do pictures, that is fine or if they would rather show up with the other guests do, that is okay too. I’m fairly close with the significant others so I wouldn’t mind them being there early to have a glass of champagne with me!!
Post # 5
they all live really close by, Less than 10min away. I didnt think about it, until one of the groomsmen’s girlfriend informed me. I had to tell her that i would have to double check with the co-oordinator. We are having a very intimate wedding and have set it up in a way that when guests arrive the feel would be very formal and organized. I feel like this would be kind of ruined if spouses are there with us that early. I guess I feel bad for not being able to think it through when I got asked by the co/ordinator for the list of people/bridal party who would be getting ready there.
Post # 6
I was in a wedding where this was the case a few years ago, and my Fiance was in one this summer. The spouses just stayed at the hotel and got ready there and then took the shuttle with the regular guests. It was completely fine, and people can be separated for a few hours.
Post # 7
@worriedconfusedbride: out of town, they can come with, but local then no.
Post # 8
I would not have so many people around when you’re getting ready. It gets confusing and there’s a lot going on – you just want your girls and your mom there. Couples can be separated for a few hours to get ready on their own. In my wedding, couples split up and had no problem meeting up when the ceremony happened.
Post # 9
thanks so much! Now I no longer feel so bad 🙂