Post # 1
My fiance is on the shorter side and a slim fit suit, like JCrew’s Ludlow khaki chino suit, look best on him. We emailed his groomsmen last night to offer them a couple different options…they could buy the exact same suit as him (jacket and pants = $366) or buy the same pants and just a vest, to save a bit of money (vest and pants = $206). They all immediately started complaining about how this isn’t a good value, etc and started throwing out cheaper options for suiting. Trust me when I say we are being sensitive to their own financial constraints. We already discussed helping out the two groomsmen we know struggle with money, but the two guys who are complaining are not putting up a fight for lack of funds. They just don’t see the value in buying a nice quality suit. Still, I don’t want to be a pain, so I’m stuck…
Do we offer to pay for the pants and they just buy their own vest or jacket? Or should we compromise and let them pick out less expensive khaki suits? If we let them pick something else out, I’m really worried they will all look mismatched if the groomsmen are in one colored suit and my fiance in another…
Meanwhile my bridesmaids are totally stoked about my dress ideas. And here I thought the guys would be easy!
Post # 3
If you can afford it, I would consider at least paying for part of the suit. From what you wrote, it sounds like you can probably work that into your budget and will give you the look you are going for. If you’re going for a very matched, cohesive look, then I think it’ll be worth it to you in the end. I have seen quite a few pictures where groomsmen had different suits and the pictures still look great, but it’s really a matter of personal preference.
The vest and pants are really a pretty good price, but if the groomsmen know that they wont wear them again, then I could see why they may not see it as a bargain 🙂 Have you looked into rentals? I know many stores have a fairly limited selection of rental suits, but there are quite a few websites that rent and ship suits and can offer more variety than a lot of brick and mortar stores.
Post # 4
thanks for your reply! i have looked into rentals, but i haven’t had any luck. from what i’ve read (on other bee posts, actually), companies don’t normally rent suits because they want you to buy them. makes sense, i guess.
i think we’re leaning toward helping the guys out with the cost of the suits (or pants/vests). i honestly don’t care if they do jackets or full suits, i just want everything to look cohesive and my groom really does look best in the jcrew suits…
Post # 5
I don’t think $366 is a bad price for a nice suit but for me and my FI it would not be a good price for a khaki suit. Its just not a color most people would get a lot of use out of. I think your best option would be to offer to pay for the pants or vest or look into rentals.
Post # 6
Most people aren’t going to care to buy a nice quality khaki suit as it isn’t a color they are likely to get much (if any) use out of after the wedding.
I think you should either let the GM all buy a less expensive khaki suit of their choosing (you can get them to agree on the same one so they all match each other), find somewhere that will rent them, or help pay for a chunk of the JCrew suits you want.
Post # 7
We’re ordering our Linen Suits from StudioSuit.com for 99.99 before $20 shipping & from what I’ve heard they are GREAT!!!! They also have a wool suit option for the same price I believe
here’s a blog posting from another bee that ordered from them
Post # 8
I agree with everyone, that I think you should help pay for some of the suit, since most aren’t going to wear it after the wedding, I know my DH wouldn’t, he just isn’t a dress up kinda guy:)
Post # 9
You can try to find a more affordable, similar option for them. We told our guys to pick out their own gray pants and vest combo, and they whined and said they NEEDED to go shopping with my husband (so giving them their own choice might even be a problem!). They also didn’t want to get a suit that matched one my husband had as it wasn’t “their style”. They ended up picking a vest/pants combo in a different shade, and getting the same shirt/tie as my husband. I just posted this picture on another post, but here you go:
Post # 10
Check with your local tux shops about renting suits. Although the big national chains don’t rent them (they want to sell you a suit), the local ones often do, many in a variety of colors and patterns. Don’t foreget that asking the guys to buy a suit is also asking them to buy shirts, ties, belts, etc– and also that the alterations on a suit can run into big money!