(Closed) Groomsmen bringing random date, even though all his friends will be there.

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I wouldn’t really be happy about but there isn’t much you can do now, you can’t Un-plus 1 someone. That’s why I don’t want to do +1s 

Post # 4
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I would also be pissed. Very pissed and I will never understand people who bring randoms as dates. Sad to say, you made your bed. You can’t unplus one someone and you can’t give a plus one with conditions. If he had a gf and he resvp’d 2 then broke up with said gf you would already have paid for the plate so technically he could have brought anyone. Sorry there is nothing to be done here.

Post # 5
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4706 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Jw1724:   I wouldn’t be too thrilled, but it’s done.  Since he knows how costly the guest would be, it is a shame he couldn’t come stag.  Ah, well.  

Post # 7
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6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’d be annoyed but … meh when he gets married make sure you bring your kids as your +1 😀 

Post # 8
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2876 posts
Sugar bee

You can’t dictate who his +1 is. It sucks but you shouldn’t have given him a +1 if you didn’t want him to have one. 

Post # 11
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

You gave him a +1, and he used it. You don’t get veto power over who he used it on, and if you were just giving it to him for a specific person or as a gesture, you should’ve said that at the beginning. (No, a vague “This wedding is expensive!” talk didn’t count.) He didn’t “take advantage” of it, he brought a guest when he was offered the opportunity to do so. It sounds like you’re making a mountain out of a molehill.

Post # 12
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Jw1724:  I think it was wrong of you to put a condition on his +1. A plus one is a plus one, you dot get to dictate who he brings. This really isn’t something you should be concerning yourself with before your wedding. Youll hardly know she’s there. I didnt know half the people at my weddig and I couldn’t have cared less. I had a great time and got to meet and have fun with new people.

Post # 13
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5208 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Jw1724:  A +1 is a +1, whether it be his girlfriend, his aunt, or the little old lady who lives next door. If your fiancé didn’t give him the name of a specific person he could bring then he should be allowed to bring any date of his choosing. 

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