(Closed) Groomsmen dilema….NEED ADVICE!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If he gets a tux or not, who cares?  If he feels well enough to be in your wedding, I say let him wear a nice suit instead (or even a polo and khakis – who cares?  As long as he’s there!).  I’d tell him that you are holding a spot open for him no matter what!  I hope he gets better soon!  I had a friend get electrocuted (he worked on power lines for a living) and it was a really scary time.

Post # 4
602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A tux might be really uncomfortable for him as well depending on how much he’s healed by then. He might need to wear something really light weight and comfortable.

Post # 5
3167 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i wouldn’t replace him – the bridal party sides can be uneven, no one will care at all, i promise. i hope all goes well and he is able to attend, tux or not!

Post # 6
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I say dont find a replacement. Threre is no rule that says that the sides need to be even. Aside from that who cares if he misses the tux deadline. He can wear black pants and as shirt. Honestly after going through all that if he does make it to  your wedding you guys should just be thankful that he is there and not care if he shows up in sweat pants. Hope all is well with  your friend and his family!!

Post # 7
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say, wait to see if the best man can make the wedding, but I wouldn’t find a “replacement”. Obviously that is who your Fiance wanted to stand next to him, and if he can’t make it I’m sure he will be there in spirit. Everyone will understand if there is no best man..he obviously has a good reason not to be there if he can’t make it! Lots of brides on here have uneven wedding parties. Two girls will just need to walk with one of the guys, but that’s fine. Crossing my fingers he gets better quickly and can come to your wedding..but if not the wedding will still work out fine..no replacement required!

Post # 8
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I can understand the concern. He may not be well enough at that time to attend let alone stand up there with you. I would wait a few weeks and see how he is doing. We had to replace a groomsman 2 weeks before hte wedding and it can be stressful, but since you have a little time I would wait and talk to him about 2 weeks before the wedding.

Post # 9
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

First off- thank goodness he is alive!  That is such a blessing! 

I think that you and your Fiance should stay open to possibilities and flexible about whether he feels up to attending.  Plan some contingencies-for example a. if he can attend but needs accessible seating and entry/exit b. if he can’t attend but you want to include him in a special way via sktpe of a pre recorded message c. if he can attend or participate – and the wait until a few weeks before the wedding to make a final decision with your Fiance and the best man. 



Post # 10
1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrstobeeisme: I would not replace him…. find some way to make his presence felt if he cant make it.

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