Groomsmen dilemma

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That’s really tough.  If your fiance has a really good friendship with the BIL (aside from him being your BIL) then I think he should keep him.  However, if he was asked due to obligation or to get even sides, then I think it might be best to gently ask him to step down as to not make your sister uncomfortable.  Tough situation all around, hopefully people will act like adults and not make your wedding about their drama.  I would be prepared for neither to come (sad to say but maybe true).

Post # 3
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

shawnakae:  is your sister also in the wedding? What are her thoughts on this?

I would hope that as adults they could choose to make the day about you and your new husband and check their own issues at the door…I would get her take on things and go from there.

Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee

I think it would be a good idea how BIL is feeling about it too. Maybe have Fiance take him out for a beer and find out what’s going on and if he rather remove himself to help not cause more drama. Just a thought. If he decides that he is going to be there, I would tell your sister that he has said no drama and that you also would like to be sure that there will be no drama from her. And like shwkakae said: And that both you and Fiance double emphasis to check the issues at the door.

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