Post # 1
DF’s best friend and his fiance are planning to surprise him by coming to our destination wedding. They plan on showing up unannounced (to him) at our rehearsal dinner the night before the ceremony. What he still won’t know is that his friend’s fiance is going to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. Now his friend is thinking about surprising him further by walking down the aisle as a groomsman. Right now our bridal party consists of DF’s brother and my surprise Maid/Matron of Honor. Dear Fiance thinks my brother is standing up as my “maid of honor”. If his friend ends up in the bridal party, my brother will be on my side. However, after finding out the price of renting a tux, he wants to wear his dress blues (he’s a marine). I think it would be tacky for a groomsman to be in blues while everyone else is in a black tux… But I don’t want to hurt his feelings and tell him no because I don’t think he can afford the rental… What do I do??? What would YOU do?
Post # 3
It is totally acceptable for him to wear his dress blues at the wedding.
Post # 4
Ok, Etiquette nut here… Military Dress Uniform is always acceptable at the most formal of occasions (ummm, just take a look at any Royal Wedding if you need to see proof)
Let him wear his Uniform… the pics will be amazing I assure you.
Post # 5
I don’t think it would look bad for him to be in his dress blues. I think years from now looking back at those photos it would be sweet for you two and sentimental to see him in them at your wedding.
Post # 6
Not tacky at ALL for him to wear his dress blues. Let him do it, it will look awesome in photos and be so special.
Post # 7
I’d let him wear the blues. Marine dress blues are incredibly good looking. However, depending on where your Destination Wedding is, he might need to clear his wearing of the uniform with his CO. I’m not familiar with all of the military’s rules on this, but I’m sure there is something about wearing a U.S. uniform in a foreign country.
Post # 8
@This Time Round: +1
I’d let him wear his dress uniform. That can never be tacky, even if he doesn’t match. But if he wants to match but simply can’t afford a tux rental, then you should offer to pay for it for him.
But I’d let him just wear the uniform…
Post # 9
IMO dress blues beat black tux any day!
Post # 10
It’s not tacky at all! Dess blues are absolutely acceptable to wear to a wedding and I don’t think they’d look bad. I would let him wear the dress blues. Plus, if he can’t afford the tux, which is more important: having everyone match? or having DF’s best friend stand in the wedding?
Post # 11
Sorry babe, asthetics aside, a Marine in his dress blues is an international formal credit card, trumps tux any day, I would be honored to have him stand up for me dressed so formally.
Post # 12
@Nona99: +1 and all other posts.. be honoured he wants to wear his blues and that you will have a marine in the wedding- besides its a great surprise.. i wouldnt let tiny details take away from the surprise & enjoyment of your day!
Post # 13
Yup; agree with all the other bees here. Military uniform trumps tux. If you insist that he needs to be in a tux and cost is an issue; then offer to pay for it.
Post # 14
Agree with all other bees!!
Post # 15
Agree with everyone else! Dress blues are so nice looking!
Edited to add – cut him some slack. He’s taking the time out to attend your Destination Wedding so that’s got to cost him a chunk of change. Don’t make him spend any more money than he already is.