Post # 1
I have never been to a formal wedding before and my boyfriend is a groomsmen in an upcoming wedding. It will be his first time being in a wedding party so we are both clueless about how things will go. I have heard that I should expect to be seperated from him for a good portion of the night. I do not know how the table set up will be yet but I am assuming we will be seperated. I was looking forward to attending a formal wedding with him for the first time and am a little upset to know that I won’t even be able to spend the majority of the wedding with him. However, I want to get a better idea of how things will go and how much time I will be able to spend with him. So ladies who have been in similar situations I would greatly appreciate hearing what I should expect. Thank you!
Post # 3
It depends on the wedding. I was a bridesmaid and I brought my (then) boyfriend. We didn’t spend the night apart, but then again the bride was very casual, lax and laid back. She basically went with the flow.
If the bride has a specific seating plan, there is a possibility you’ll spend most of the evening alone considering most weddings have head tables for the bridal party. It all depends on how formal and traditional the wedding has been planned out to be.
Post # 4
DH was in his sister’s wedding when we’d been together for about 6 months. I was apart from him for the ceremony and dinner, but once dinner was over and the music/dancing part of the evening had begun we were together. Just keep in mind that the point of the day is supporting his friend in the beginning of his marriage.
Post # 5
Depends on the bride. Other than taking pictures, unless she seats you at two different tables (which I think is really rude to do, but just my opinion), then you should be together for a good portion of the night!
Post # 6
It depends on the bride, but normally the best man is at thetop table anyway. I’m doing that but the rest of my groomsmen are sitting with their partners. After the meal everyone can sit where ever they like. But thats Scotland, and every bride is different. I’d expect to spend a bit of time apart on the day and everything else is just a bonus.
Post # 7
You guys will probably be separated the majority of the time, especially if it is a formal wedding. I have been in several weddings and usually the wedding party is set aside from everyone else. However, maybe they will be considerate and allow you to be seated with him.
Post # 8
This exact thing happened to me and my fiance last summer. The bride and groom had a head table, so my fiance was seated there for the first part of dinner. I ended up sitting with the brides family (I had kinda been with them all day) next to the brides’s brother’s girlfriend. After dinner, I was either with my fiance or dancing
Post # 9
@weddingguest101: It depends on the couple. At my wedding, you would get ready by yourself and then come to the wedding by yourself. The groomsman would be getting ready with the groom. Then you sit by yourself during the ceremony and then get yourself to the reception and enjoy cocktail hour where he will join you for the last 15 minutes. Then you go find your seat (with people you know) while he is at the head table and eat apart during speeches. Then he is yours the rest of the night.
When my FI was a groomsman, I got ready with him, rode to the venue with him, the other groomsmen and the groom, and then entertained myself while they did pictures. I sat alone during the ceremony, met up with him at cocktail hour, and sat next to him at dinner. it all depends.
Post # 10
You may be apart for the dinner part, but will be able to be together for the dancing! I’ve been there when FI was a best man, and FI had to sit alone when I was a bridesmaid. Just chat with the people around you and look forward to the dancing portion. And take the opportunity to view your handsome man all dressed up and looking good from afar. 😉 I remember FI and I shared lots of glances and “eyes” while we were apart and it made it so awesome when we could actually dance together. Have a good time! It will be okay, I promise! Just go into it confident and with a good attitude 🙂