Post # 1
Yep I said it and we ALL know its true.
Bare yourselfs this is going to get icky…
FI’s brother is the bestman and so was his Bestfriend but brother was being whiney he was having gf problems for a bit and drama about a cat of hers we were housing for a while….mean time were starting to see less and less of FIs bestfriend….he had become i guess or ASSUMED she was “Part of the group” theyd only dated a few months while weve been all a groupd for yrs! FI I brother and Best friend….
she starts hanging out with FIs bestfriend… whom is has been with a girl for 5 yrs (she trewated him like crap though so we figured it wouldnt last) anywho…low and behold he breaks up with his chick of 5 yrs and we start getting rumors from her that FIs best friend and his brothers ex have been goin to clubs mind u this is mean but the best friend is not really her “type” shes shallow and hes not ken
after FI is really hurt by best friend ditching him all the time he confronts him and hes all boohooo im sorry apparently they “werent” dating and this “magically opened her eyes” and now they date….shes always at his house and when we ask Bestfriend to come over and visit he drudges her along knowing were pissed at him for dating her because he always said “yeah man dating a friends ex is so wrong so out of the questions blah blah blah…”
also another note? she lives with her dad but whom ever she dated I,E. previous ex/FIs brother and FIs bestfriend she practically sleeps over so much that she pretty much lives there….we all know the type girls the type that mooches what they want out of someone until she find a bigger wallet?
get this when she dated FIs brother…she tried convincing me to leave FI because hes no good for me….uhg sorry if im jumping around so much had to vent this…. but FI is a rock he wont show his feelings much and i know his BFF is hurting him doing this FI has confronted BFF many times and all BFF says is Oh i never choose friends over GFs vise versa…. yeah right hes proven he has…
like i said he was in the wedding party which has known about for a yr now…..and he says he cant afford a tux he told us this 3 months ago….hes jobbless due to layoffs but does odd jobs and is able to drive his gf around from work and to other things clubbing and restraunts… we dont want the gf at the wedding and FI is insisting that his bff goes but i know it wont work that way…. what do yall think of this….? what do u do or say when your hubby to be is hurting and u dont want to bud in cause itll just make him talk about feelings he doesnt want to?
and again sorry if this is confusing to sum it up?
FI’s best friend is an ashhole and BIL’s Ex is a total homewrecker….
Post # 3
OK, afte reading it several times I came to some conclusions
A. The whole relationship between this girl/FI’s brother/Best Friend thing, STAY OUT OF THAT MESS! Believe me, it will only get worse. Don’t gossip about it, don’t do anything. I know you are all friends but believe me when I say it will only end badly.
B. Do not, under any circumstances, worry about this girl, the fact that she is living with her dad and supposably mooching is none of your business. Her behavior is showing that she may not even stay around long.
C. I am not saying this girl was right,she did some wrong. The whole thing about trying to get you to dump your FI is awful. I am glad that your FI and you have better common sense. These type of girls can be called a “wrecker” and an “instigator” the less contact you have with her, the better. If you keep fighting with her boyfriend then it is possible that you can be under attack and he will cling to her more.
D. Now about the wedding, which is your business, if he does go and he brings her then you will be unhappy, if he doesn’t go then your fiance will be unhappy. What should happen? About the tux, the Best Friend is being iffy about that. I really think that these matters should be between your FI and him. If he actually cannot pay for the tux, then her has a choice. Either not be in it, or try to find some help. If you do talk to the potential GM, try to confront him in a tactful way because from what you say, this girl could be an instigator.
Post # 4
thanks my main worry if this is FI “best friend” and although he may be merging away from that title…idk i just can see him caving in and inviting him which hell invite her which can make a lot of his family uncomfortable…so im weighing the options….
Post # 5
Your FI has a hard choice! It is either put the Best friend in the wedding and be happy BUT if he does, then since his brother will be there, it will be so uncomfortable. Although it is his ultmately his choice, you are going to have to soothe him after his choice. However, if he does invite the friend all you can say is, “Look this is our wedding. If there is a single alteration, anything then I will be upset.” If this friend and the girl comes (which personally I see it in bad taste that she would due to her history) then there has to be a way for them to sit away from the family. Like they say, out of sight, out of mind.
The reason why I said to stay out of it isn’t just for your sake, but think about it, this girl seems to be like an instigator and I have a funny feeling that she would somehow tie you into an ugly situation.
Post # 6
I think casteel covered it well stay out that mess. I would have FI have a serious talk about wheter he can afford to be BM.
Sounds like you have a situation but dont lose focus your wedding and marriage is more important than some flighty girl.