Groomsmen Plus One

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KeithT:  The wedding party are normally extended a plus one as a courtesy. They have often spent a lot of time and money on your wedding and it is a thoughtful gesture to allow them to bring a date.

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t even have to read your post in order to say your groomsman should have gotten a +1. It is courteous to allow them to bring a date because they are a part of your wedding.

Post # 8
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@KeithT:  You asked for our opinion. We all understand that many decions about the guest list are driven by budget. Too bad you didn’t check in here before you sent the invitations.

Post # 11
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KeithT:  I agree with PPs.  Groomsmen and bridesmaids should always be given a +1.  They put in a lot of time, effort, and money to be in your wedding and the least you can do is allow them to bring a date.

I wouldn’t feel too bad though.  There’s a difference in allowing the +1s of GMs and adding 2 extra guests.  The +1s should have been included from the start while the BM’s parents did not have to be.  I would consider the parents to be extras and the +1s to be errors in the original guest list.

Post # 13
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’re in a similar boat, our GM’s are mostly single, but they’ll be traveling so we’ll probably give them +1’s, though they probably won’t use them.  I personally think it depends more on the situation, because if you know they aren’t interested in a +1, you shouldn’t have to send the invite +1 just for the sake of etiquette.  On the other hand, it should’ve probably been discussed prior.  But oh well, what’s done is done!

Post # 14
789 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We only gave our GM a +1 becuase they a)have a wife or b)dont know each other, let alone anyone else at the wedding. The one GM I’ve only met once and the other has an annoying GF he’s been with so we “had” to invite her because he also doesn’t know anyone. 


I feel that if they aren’t in a commited relationship and do know people that they don’t necessarily have to have a +1. Then again I also don’t follow 90% of the wedding etiquette that everyone else seems so fond of. 

ETA: and on another note of the etiquette everyone is fond of if the invite didn’t say guest on it then they’re breaking etiquette. 

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