Post # 1
I need some help with our tuxedos! My fiance wants to do a dark charcoal gray tux, and we want to do vests/long ties. BUT we don’t want the vests to be too matchy/matchy to the girls (MOH is in pink, 6 bridesmaids in purple).
Should we do silver/light gray vests & ties, and have them match the girls only with their bouttenierre, or would it look ok to do gray vest with purple tie? Do the vest and tie have to match?
Post # 3
Vest and tie do not have to match. I would go in with one of the boys and start mixing the colours you like up.
My girls are in chocolate brown and my colours are brown and green. After going to the tux shop, the green and brown just didn’t look right on the boys, so I decided to get a brown vest (patterned) with a solid brown tie and green pocket square. It will look pretty sharp.
What are your colours? If silver is part of it, defintely go for it. But I would try and stay away from having random extra colours mixed in. Stick with your theme.
My FH is going to be in a white vest and white tie (all boys in black tuxes), he will stand out from everyone else.
I think the boys would look nice in purple with the gray tux, you could do a pink pocket square.
Post # 4
They don’t have to match, personally I find the completely matching colors (guys vests/ties exact color of bridesmaids dresses) to look a little promish to me. But that’s just my taste. My girls were in navy and my guys were in black tuxes with charcoal vests/ties. The girls bouquets were mixes of blues and purples and the guys had purple bouts. The vests and ties don’t have to match but I’d suggest going in and having your fiance or one of the groomsmen try on different combinations to see what you like.
Post # 5
Go with 3-piece charcoal suits, instead of tuxedos. Grey tuxedos were invented by the rental industry, so they had something to sell people who didn’t want black. A charcoal suit is extremely versatile, and the groomsmen will be able to wear it many, many times in the futre, and you can spend the same as on a rented tux.
Then, pick ties that coordinate with the bridesmaids.
Matching vest/tie sets are the sort of thing I’d only wear if I had to wear it as a member of a wedding party; otherwise I wouldn’t be caught dead in one.
Post # 6
@Duncan: I agree with this. Match the vest to the suit, then do whatever color you want with the tie.