- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I have 7 attendents in the wedding (MOH and 6 bridesmaids). My FI only has his best friend as best man and 4 friends he wants to be groomsmen. This brings us to 7 vs 5. Neither of us have any isssues with uneven sides. I wasn’t about to cut friends or make him ask more people.
Now, at the venue we’re using for our ceremoy, we could really use ushers. I said that the groomsman can serve doubel duty and escort people. My FI has two other college friends that he’s not as close to as before but still considers good friends. He suggested asking them to be ushers.
I told him absolutely not but I want to know if the Hive agrees. I think it’ll be weird to not ask them to be “full” groomsmen when he’s got exactly two less people then I do!
I also told him that I thought ushers are usually included in the same events as groomsmen. He didn’t a. know this b. think that this was true. I think the two will wonder why they are “just” ushers when there appears there is no numerical reason they can’t be groomsmen.
My FI maintains he doesn’t want them to be groomsmen because he’s not as close to these guys anymore but wants to include them.
I think its all or nothing in this situation. Do you agree? The other two need to be groomsmen OR nothing?