- 3 years ago
Seriously, who knew that picking wedding colors could be so dang stressful?! Here’s the deal…I always thought I wanted soft, pretty colors for my wedding. I pictured pastels, light mint, etc., but early in wedding planning when FI got so excited about doing blue and orange, I agreed. (hey, it’s his wedding, too, right?). We wanted to keep it casual (and avoid looking like Broncos/Gators fans with uber bold blues and oranges), so I found the following picture and proposed we use it as a guide:
I passed this picture on to my sister/MOH and told her that she could do the searching and find a dress that the girls all like and is within their budget. She found a dress on Etsy in a simmilar color and everyone was really excited because 1) it was about $50, which will be super helpful since they’re all students and 2)they can buy it in whatever style looks best on their body (halter, 1-strap, strapless, etc) but keep the fabric/color/length the same. They haven’t ordered them yet, because they’ve still got time if they happen to find something they like better.
It’ll be in July, so originally, he decided that rather than doing tuxes, he and his groomsmen would guy matching pants, buttonups, and ties and he’d wear a vest. Something like this:
Here’s the deal, though…he was in a wedding this weekend in which he had to wear a tux and has now decided that he’s going to scrap the original idea and do rented tuxes. No big deal, except he is suddenly really picky about the color vest he wants to wear (it’ll be a blue something like the pic below) and is worried about it clashing with the dresses the BM will wear, since they’re really different shades… he also refuses to use the lighter shade like in the pic above because he thinks that, in his words, “it’s basically baby blue, which is not a color I’m going to make grown men wear”…instead he wants this:
He’s worried about letting the girls buy their dresses online since the color on a computer may not be true to how it looks in person, so he now wants me to make them all buy them from a bridal shop so that we can see the colors beforehand and match them to the groomsmen’s tuxes. I told him that this will likely double or triple the cost that they agreed to pay, but his reasoning is that “if the groomsmen all have to pay $150 to rent a tux, your bridesmaids can spend the same to buy their dress…especially since they get to keep theirs!”
I get where he’s coming from, but I don’t think it’s fair to make my girls pay more just because he’s decided to make his guys pay more. I also don’t think it’s that huge of a deal if the shades of blue don’t match exactly! I’ve been suggesting compromises for the past day or two, but we seem to be at an impasse, so I’m turning to you bees for your own suggestions.
Here’s what I’ve suggested so far:
- we pay the difference (or a part of the difference) between the $50 they agreed to and the cost of the dress that he wants — he thinks it would be unfair to only help the girls and not both the guys & the girls, and our budget is too low to do both
- The guys wear grey vests rather than blue so we only have to match the ties (which will be easier, anyways!) — he wants the vest to contrast with the rest of the suit
- The guys wear orange vests to match the flowers rather than the dresses — he thinks orange vests would look weird
So…what other possible suggestions can I make?! If we don’t come to an agreement soon, I’m worried that my typically laid-back FI will turn into a groom-zilla! Help!