Groomsmen/Bridesmaid matching colors & cost!

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
805 posts
Busy bee

amanda.417:  Hmm. I think you’re seriously going to piss off your bridesmaids if you change plans from one they’re all happy with and make them spend more, so I would say no to option 1. Your FI’s attitude of ‘mine have spent X so yours should suck it up and do the same’ is pretty unpleasant. 

I’d say go with option 2. I don’t get what’s wrong with men wearing pale blue, but the bright blue looks a little dated anyway and orange would be a bit violent with the blue. Grey is a little more classic. I was at a wedding recently with red bridesmaids, and navy groomsmen with red ties – it looked really nice and although it worked well, didn’t look too matchy matchy. 

Post # 3
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Did the bridesmaids say their budget was $50 or that’s just what they happened to find?  If you go the route of more expensive bridesmaids dresses and paying the difference, I think you would also have to pay that much to the groomsmen for their attire.

The coloured vest and tie is very high school prom to me.  A vest that matches the suit/tux colour is a much more grown up look.  If he wants a brighter blue tie than the bridesmaid dress that is fine with a neutral vest.

Post # 4
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

amanda.417:  I hope you are able to convince him that a colored vest is for prom night and magicians. A grown man wears a vest to match his tuxedo.

He can add color to the mens’ outfits by picking a striped or patterned tie. I assume they will also have some color in their boutonniere.

If he wants some of the brighter blue, a striped tie can include both the brighter blue and the more pastel blue.

blue striped tie-ermenegildo zegna woven alternating satin striped tie blueblue striped tie-neiman marcus giftboxed tie navyblue stripesblue striped tie-geoffrey beene tripoli stripe tie

Your FI could consider gifting the men their ties and maybe some colorful matching socks.

mens blue striped socks-paul smith multitopstripe socks light blue

As far as costs go, the men usually have one flat fee for their tuxedo including all the pieces that go with it and shoes. The women buy a dress, shoes, often jewelry and often pay to get hair and makeup done. In the end, the groomsmen usually spend less.


Post # 6
2632 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Originally I was going to have my girls in 5 different colours and we were going to buy matching ties for the guys. That made FI decide on no vests at all. We’re doing all one colour now but he’s adamant about no vests. 

FSIL’s wedding, the groomsmen all had black vests and suits, and the groom wore an ivory vest with his (black) suit. 

My bff’s wedding the guys all wore white/ivory vests with their grey suits. 

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