Post # 1
One of my very good friends asked me to be a groomswoman in his wedding this summer. I’m very honored, and oddly, not weirded out – my wedding was *very* traditional, and thankfully he’s not making me wear a tux.
Anyway, the issue is that he’s being a total guy. I’ve been told to wear a black knee length dress of my choice and black shoes. That’s it. I can’t get more detail out of him. So typical.
I guess my questions are, what would you do to your hair? Wear it up, down? Have it done? Get makeup done or not? Jewelry? Yes, I know this depends on the formality, but he’s unhelpful and I’ve only met the bride once, at my wedding. Is it better to go more casual or more formal?
Oh, and any ideas for knee length dresses that hide ugly knees? I’m a size 14 and haven’t shown my legs in like, years.
Post # 3
Opt for any style that matches the feeling of the wedding. As long as you are not more formal or drastically more casual than any bridesmaids, you will fit right in.
Post # 4
My Fiance is having his sister as his “Best Lady”. She is going to wear a grey dress, cause the groomsman are wearing grey suits. I’ve included her in getting hair and makeup done just like my bridesmaids. I think of her just like one of my bridesmaids but different colored dress and different side of the aisle.
Your a member of the wedding party..I’d say get your hair done if you want to!
Post # 5
s not asking you to dress like a man. You can still do your hair up or down as you please and get your makeup done if you want. If you have any doubts, ask for the brides email address so you can get some feedback from her.
A dress that is hemmed at mid knee or just below is always very elegant.
An A line or slightly full skirt looks great at that length
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Post # 6
Honestly… I would still contact the bride and ask for her preferences, even though you don’t know her well! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with the other bees. If your friend is too much of a dude, it sounds like it may be time to get together with the bride. And to reiterate, you ARE a member of the wedding party. What would you be doing hair/makeup/jewelry-wise if you were a bridesmaid? You’re just standing on the other side of the party. And as far as your dress, I would venture to say that a tea length dress would probably be okay, even if the bridesmaids are in shorter dresses–but again, pass it through the bride (or make groom pass it through the bride). You could get it hemmed to JUST below the knee, too, instead of calf-length if you get worried it’s too long. You are a good friend to care.
Post # 8
!!! I love it! I wanted a groomswoman just for the look. I wanted mine in a floor length black dress, with a sash the same color as the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. But that was me!
Maybe get a tea-length or almost dress? I doubt he’ll notice a big difference btwn that and knee-length. And definitely talk to the bride about how the bridesmaids are going to look. You should blend in with them since you will be a part of the bridal party.
Post # 9
Thanks, I will try to get in touch with her. I just feel weird, like I’m overly excited…but I can’t help it, I’m excited!
Post # 10
I’ve been at a wedding where there was a female on the grooms side who wore the same dress as the bridemaids, but in a black/gray color. I thought it was very classy looking. For our wedding, my FI’s female friend is standing with the rest of the BM’s in the same attire, just as my bothers are standing with the rest of the Groomsmen. I think either way is a great way to go. And yes, I agree with the other bees, check in with the bride.
Post # 11
I would do whatever you would want somebody to do for your own wedding…
Post # 12
@starrynight: I totally understand! I would feel the same way. I think if you just express it plainly, “I want to make sure that your wedding is perfect because I’m so excited and happy for you two!”
Post # 13
We’re having a groomschick in our wedding too! She’s going to wear the same dress as the bridesmaids, in the same color. I agree with the PPs — call the bride. She’ll know what’s up and what she wants 🙂
Post # 14
@likelimeade: OMG, “groomschick”! I love that.
It’s funny, some bridesmaids complain about having to wear whatever the bride picks out, but to me, that’s so much easier!
One last question…I have thick calves…too much dancing when I was younger…I’m guessing I need something that doesn’t cut across the middle of them, yes? And heels will minimize the thickness?