Post # 1
I was sleeping over at FI’s apartment last night, and I got up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night. As I sat down on the toilet (heh… TMI?), it was wet and sticky! I jumped up and realized that someone (FI’s roommate) had puked all over the place and hadn’t cleaned it up. I should have noticed the smell right away before sitting, but it ALWAYS smells in there. Then, all I could do was try to splash water and hand soap onto my legs from the sink because their shower doesn’t have a removable head and there were no clean towels. I couldn’t even clean the toilet to pee because they don’t have any cleaning supplies! (FI has been struggling with money and the roommate just doesn’t clean)
I’m living with my parents to save on rent, but the atmosphere there is very trying, so I often come over here to escape, but IM GETTING SO TIRED OF THIS PLACE! It’s always dirty and smelly and nobody does their dishes or cleans the kitchen so FI and I have to ALWAYS eat out b/c we’re afraid of the kitchen (and we don’t have the money and cheap fast food is making losing weight really hard). FI would clean up after his own messes (and he does), but the roommate is sooo messy (Plus, they have a guy crashing on the couch – rent free – who adds to the mess)
AHH! I can’t wait until FI and I have a place of our own! I don’t think I can wait nine months until our wedding!!!
Sorry for the vent, I’m just still really grossed out. After the bathroom/puke incident, I couldn’t get back to sleep and I’m way tired today.
Post # 3
I’m sorry 🙁 That does sound really gross. I really don’t know if I could handle that! Is it possible to get a place together before you get married? Could you maybe buy some lysol wipes? I know it doesn’t help much, but theyre mutlipurpose and can at least save you from that. Gosh, I wish I could be more help. *Hugs*
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Oh, that’s so nasty. I’m sorry. 🙁
Post # 5
Wow! That’s truly disgusting. Could you bring some cleaning supplies over, and help your FI clean up the apartment? I would hate to clean other people’s messes, but I also wouldn’t want to eat out or stop going to my fiance’s house. (BTW, I would NOT clean up the vomit, and would wake that disgusting man up, and make him clean it).
Post # 6
That is awful! I know how this can be (not to that extent though). I would buy the boys an apartment present: a bucket filled with cleaners and gloves. I would also suggest for future sleepovers you bring some things just to be prepared. Throw a towel, some extra clothes, ect into a bag that just stays there so you will be prepared for disasterous situations like a vomit toilet.
I honestly would give in and help clean the kitchen. Eating out every meal has got to be old.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies. Yeah, my biggest question is: Who the heck pukes in the toilet without raising the seat!?
@ JoesWifey: I have considered getting a place together, believe me. But, I don’t have a job and FI is struggling, so he relies on said roommate to make rent. Without his half, we couldn’t afford it. But as soon as I get a job, SOMETHING has to change.
@ Remi: I HAVE helped clean. In fact, one time I got so fed up with the kitchen that we spent an entire afternoon scrubbing it. It was a huge job. Then, we left a sign by the sink saying “If you use a dish, clean it – by the end of the day” to keep stuff from piling up. It worked awhile, but not long. I would basically have to be there all the time cleaning up after people because every dish, the crumbs from every meal, the grease on the stove from everything cooked – nothing gets wiped up or cleaned.
@ Bamboo: Yeah, I’ve been meaning to buy them cleaning supplies, but it’s not really a matter of not having supplies (except for this one time since it’s been so long and FI hasn’t had a chance to pick some up), but simply that nobody cleans up after their own messes. I usually bring a towel, clothes, and shower stuff with me, but I don’t even like showering in there with my own stuff b/c it’s gross.
UGH this stage needs to END
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
EW, that is disgusting! boys are so gross…I totally feel you, when I was dating my FH in college, he lived in a suite with 8 other frat boys and it was BRUTAL…The worst was when one sunday morning, I went in to use the bathroom and this is the scene I saw: The bathroom was covered in newspapers, like someone had wripped up and thrown maybe 20 of them all over. There was a smashed bottle of cough syrup all over the ground, so glass everywhere. One of two bathroom stalls had puke all over it, the other had something ELSE all over it (give you a hint, it’s brown), there was a KID PASSED OUT IN THE BATHTUB and finally, the piece de resistance, someone had RIPPED ONE OF THE SINKS OUT OF THE WALL. True story. So yeah, I feel your pain, good luck!
Post # 9
@ rungurl10: oh MAN! That’s awful. I’m certainly grateful that this is not that bad.
Im currently looking to see if there’s anything that FI can afford right now on his own until I can get a job and move in.
Post # 10
Ugh! Boys can be SOOOOO gross sometimes. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that and you can’t really get out of that situation right now. Just try to focus on the future when you guys will be able to be on your own and you won’t have to be terrified of using your own bathroom!
Post # 11
So gross! I hope your situation improves and you’re able to get a place together soon!
Post # 12
Maybe get some paper plates from the dollar store or something? At least they can just toss them out or something. Waste of money and resources, but better for the hygeine it sounds like…
Post # 13
That’s disgusting. You’d think his RM’s would find it gross, too! I’m so sorry!
Post # 14
Ohhh my goodness!!! That is really frustrating and definitely the grossest thing ever! I would be really mad. I’m so sorry that you are in such a difficult situation (wanting to escape your parents but not wanting to stay in a nasty place). Ughh…hang in there and feel free to vent as much as you need to! Our weddings are only a week apart and 9 months feels really far away!
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
EWW EWW EWW! You poor thing!