Post # 1
Hello! I’ve been lurking around the boards since I first got engaged and have seen you ladies give some excellent advice. I was hoping you would be able to help me too!
Three weeks from now a relitave of my FI will be hosting a group bridal shower for myself as well as two of FI’s cousions. The format she has selected involves each guest bringing $25 for each bride, instead of a gift. The host will take the money to buy us things off our registeries.
I’ve never seen a shower run like this before, and my question is how do I go about the thank you’s? Should i send a letter to everyone who attended thanking them for their contribution, and telling them what was purchased?
Post # 3
I have never heard of this! Is it a regional tradition? Are the guests familiar with this sort of format? I might find myself put out by not being allowed to select my own gift– if I’m giving cash, I want the bride to receive cash, not something from the registry I didn’t pick out!
I presume she is trying to remove the pressure from guests to buy three expensive gifts from three different registries but… this method could cause some confusion. Do all the guests know all the gals equally well?
Post # 4
Wow….I have also never heard of that idea…but I don’t think it’s a bad idea at all! From a guest view…I don’t have worry about the stress of shopping for a great gift, just show up with the money. And from the bride-to-be view…..you are still getting a gift/gifts that are on your registry.
But to answer your question….yes, you should send a thank-you to anyone that attended and gave money to be put towards a gift, even if you don’t know them that well. Everyone appreciates (and deserves!) a nice thank-you card. I don’t think you HAVE to tell them what was bought from the gift registry… as long as they feel like you appreciated their donation and attendance, I am sure they will be happy.
Please keep us informed about how the shower went….. I am very curious as to how the shower/gifting/registry idea will work out!